There's something I like to call action friction that prevents people from achieving their dreams. It's source, the current habits that you have.

So the easy way to start is to simply start off a new habit small and gradually increase the level.

For pick-up you first have to develop the habit of speaking to strangers. Not holding conversations with them, but speaking to them. This is as easy as developing the habit of simply saying hi, or good morning to most if not all of the people you encounter for a week to a month.

It usually takes a month to start a new habit.

This will feel ridiculous at first, and you'll encounter the resistance of not wanting to "bother" people. That'll all disappear quickly.

You'll most likely end up in conversations during this period as well since people tend to talk back to you. Not everyone will though, so your hi will get "rejected" a lot . It's not a big deal, don't get upset if you say hi and someone ignores you.

Some problems I encountered back in the day when I did this was that guys who seemed straight would begin trying to game me, and I had to figure out ways to get out of the conversations.

After the hi habit you'll simply start you're game. You say the easy, and trained hi/good morning bit that you trained into a habit, and then open the conversation and lay the game down.

You won't feel anxious at all about saying hi, but you'll probably experience performance anxiety for your game. That's fine, just use your hi/good day bit and then try to enjoy the game. The performance anxiety will go away eventually like it did when you were saying hi to people.

Damn fudge...out of all of your fudge/magipimp/rounin/starboy/starman posts, this one right here is good quality.

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HOW I LEARNED TO GET OVER MY FEAR OF TALKING TO GIRLS

When you see a girl, you probably look at her a little bit. If she looks in your direction, you look away. You don't say anything to her. The whole time she's standing there, you wish you had the courage to say something. She leaves and you mentally kick yourself.

"fuck, I'm such a bitch".

I get it. That was me.

Surprisingly, the way I learned to get over my fear of talking to girls has little to do with girls at all. It all started the day I stopped thinking with my brain and starting acting with my gut.

It was a few years ago. I was recently dumped by my girlfriend 2 months prior. The weather was getting shitty that time of year and I was feeling the bad weather blues. I was sad, alone, gaining weight, and unsure of my direction.

I was FED UP.

For some reason, I can't remember what it was, but I thought to myself "I need to feel alive..."
And what do people do to feel alive? They go bungee jumping.

I thought about jumping off of a bridge and was immediately filled with fear. I don't even enjoy going on rides at the fair...

But deep down I knew it was what I needed. Deep down somewhere.

Deep in my gut.

I was faced with a decision. Listen to my brain saying "no way, jose"

or my gut, that said "fuck it man". So what did I do?

I didn't wait. I didn't think about it. I said "fuck it man" and I committed. Without even thinking I went online, found a place in my state to bungee jump that was open, and paid a deposit, all in 3 minutes.

I called up my buddy, who was also stuck in a rut, and asked if he wanted to jump with me next week. Can you guess what he said? I'll quote him..

"fuck it, sure"

And the entire time leading up to the day I thought "why the fuck did I decided to do this? FUCK"

And when the day came, we felt butterflies just THINKING about going.

But we HAD to go. We HAD to do it.

So we went.

And when we got to the bridge, we filled out the paperwork. I checked the "no" box that asked whether or not I wanted an open casket at my funeral.

And we got strapped in and stepped over the railing.

"Ready? 3,2,1 DIVING BIG" they yelled



Best decision I ever made...

So how does this relate to girls?

I want you to realize something. Your life, my life, everybody else's life....DOESN'T FUCKING MATTER.

We are tiny and insignificant little beings on a tiny little planet and we haven't even been here for 1% of the length of the universe. We absolutely don't matter one fucking bit. Everyone you've ever met..Everyone you're ever going to meet...they're all going to die and anything you or anyone else does will be washed away with time. Depressing? No... It's freeing.

Any mistake you could possibly make will matter exactly 0%. Stop pretending you're important. Nobody is.

That girl you're afraid to talk to? You could walk up to her, push her over, wave your dick around and start yelling in Vietnamese and guess what? With enough time, IT WON'T MATTER.

So while your brain says "no way, jose", your gut is saying "fuck it".

Listen to your gut and fucking go for it. Walk up to that bitch and tell her you think she's cute. Or say whatever. It doesn't fucking matter. You're going to die. Might as well have some fun before you go.

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Awesome post!