Good points. That was what I was trying to do anyways, but to be honest when I usually kiss a girl on the first date, the girl never ever flakes for a second date. That's why I was so surprised by this girl, last month. Oh well, no point in trying to figure out why she flaked I guess.

Again..you're still hung up on the fact that this one girl didn't fully submit to your game, because you're not used to them flaking on you after they makeout with you on the 1st date. Let go of that ego attachment that you should get every girl that you kiss on the 1st date. The fact of the matter is, no matter how good your game is..you're not going to get every girl, PERIOD! It could be as simple as she changed her mind, or some cataclysmic event just took place in her life. Either way..it's out of your control, and your game skills cannot change that. The girl hit you in your ego, that's why you're still confused about why that happened with this particular girl.


Once again..you're not going to get every girl. Your focus shouldn't be on trying to get every girl. Try focusing more on enjoying the process..as opposed to being dependent on an outcome. Then if the girl flakes on you..you won't really feel the sting of her rejecting you because you was focused on the process and not actually on the result of banging her, or the result of getting her to show up on the 2nd date after the makeout on the 1st date. Have the abundance mentality dude!.."I don't need this girl. My life is awesome with or without the girl." This mentality i found, will also solve the issue of you having a "state crash". The reason why you have a "state crash" after a rejection, is because you feel a deficit when the girl isn't around, because you think that you need her to make your life more awesome - scarcity mentality. The correct mentality is "My life is already awesome..with or without her. And there is always another girl, more than willing to replace her. " - abundance mentality.


-G

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LEARNING GAME IS LAME!..Right up until the point when you will eventually see a hot girl standing or sitting right in front of you. In that moment..you will wish that you had learned game!

First of all dude don t take what the girl said to you as a rejection and don t take it personally...girls are girls you never know but to me the main lesson out there is some girls don t like the relationship frame even If you didn t say her that you wanted a commited relationship or what not..she may have thought that you wanted that kind of thing...
Maybe the 2nd date for this kind of girl would be something like "hey next time come to my house and we cook together I m sure you don t know how to cut oignons"...or something like that...and Fclose the girl directly...
To be honest the same thing happened me in the past and I learned that some girls need to be pulled as soon as possible because as I said they don t like the relationship frame or they don t have regular emotions they are easily bored so they are looking for a guy who rejects them who even denigrates them who ignores them totaly so they are excited about that kind of guys which is not an healthy form of being alpha I find...
I believe that pick up is one of the most "proactive" form of artistry so what I would recommend is even If it seems crazy you can just send a message inviting her and at the same time in the same message you can say "let s just hang out no expectations" you can pretext something like "I have a day off let s hang out tomorrow promis no expectations " or something like that and If she says yes invite her directly to your place...

Unfortunately you are right, as disgusting as this fact may be. These women want a guy that they can't have, or a guy who seems like the kind of guy that they can't have. In pickup we call this a DHV (Demonstation of High Value). Guys who learn the game, can DHV themselves, to stimulate this type of feeling in women..that to them..we seem like the kinda guys that these women can't have. Game gives us guys leverage over women that have it way easier than we do, and can get laid way easier than us guys can..especially if she's hot. But the advantage that we have over them is they haven't learned the inner game that we had to learn. If you've ever ran a jealousy plotline type of game on a girl, and reversed the roles on her..then you know exactly what i'm talking about. As soon as the attention is not on the girl anymore (especially if she is hot..and is used to all the attention being on her all of the time), they freak the fuck out. You can literally see them getting into their own heads and getting out-of-state (what we puas would call a "state crash"). And yes..hot girls do have state crashes too. They will try to qualify themselves in a variety of ways, to get back the validation that they lost. LOl It's quite the sight to behold. I've seen this play out in the field with my own 2 eyes many times. Which is the reason why they pull their girl friend away from you, that you were hitting on instead of her by the way. LOL


Btw..us guys can't be let off the hook either, because we are guilty of this as well. We're always trying to get the hottest girls.


-G

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LEARNING GAME IS LAME!..Right up until the point when you will eventually see a hot girl standing or sitting right in front of you. In that moment..you will wish that you had learned game!