So as of the last couple of weeks I've been really striving to become a better version of myself. Less insecure, less controlling.... you know less bad vibes and more good vibes. Cuz at the end of the day you should have the attitude of she's banging me... amirite???

Anyways -- B/c of so I noticed my girl being EXTREMELY happy as of lately. Like whoa.. I've RARELY seen my girl like this. Damn this is dope! If there's even a slight attitude I go to digging mode and quickly find out why so I can put her ass back into HAPPY mode! Things are fucking great when it's like this.

Anyways pt. 2 -- I know a big role of her being super happy now than before is that I'm not being a jealous faggot anymore. Before when she'd say things like another guy is good looking (Whether it be a celeb, professor twice her age, etc) I'd get fucking PISSED lol. I know this turned her ass off b/c she'd shut down to me. Not wanna talk as much, have a bit of an attitude etc. NOW when she tells me another guy is good looking I'm just straight up honest with her. I'll either be like "Yeah.. he's a good looking guy", or I'll literally laugh in her face b/c I think she's on drugs and the guy she is talking about ain't good looking. How she reacts to me when I have this attitude, and not the jealous serious type, is fucking amazing. It's like she opens up more to me. And now that I have her in a happy more open state, I feel like my girl does the whole "this guy is good looking" A LOT less. But when she's shut down to me and has an attitude, she does it A LOT more and harsher lol.

Anyways pt. 3 -- I wanna understand WHY women do this? Is it a test? Where if I don't pass she shuts down, and if I pass she really opens up? BITCH why you testing me I graduated already!! But seriously... why do women do this? Is it a test to see if the guy is really a man like she thinks he is? is she testing his masculine core?

Thoughts...?

You gave her the freedom to express herself without the worry of you getting insecure. She used to have to shut down to spare your feelings. Now that you have accepted that she can see other men as attractive and not get jealous over it, you've turned it into a trivial topic of discussion.

Look at it this way...say your girlfriend loves chocolate. She may point it out to you a few times when she sees a commercial for it. At some point, that desire to point out chocolate to you will be so redundant of a topic for her that she will stop mentioning it. Just as pointing out every good looking guy will become a boring or repetitive topic.

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It's not a "test'. It's seeking attention.

Women LOVE attention. It's what dampens their panties more than sex itself.

Because it is women's genetic imperative to seek their male's level of commitment.

Women feel insecure without this reassurance from their man, the reassurance that he is committed to her, because instinctively, if you're not really committed to her, if she's not really that special to you, if she senses that you could leave her at any second and you wouldn't care, if your not providing attention that makes her feel vulnerable.

Attention from other men, gives her the power to see how committed you are.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.

You not giving her attention feels the same to her, as if she were withholding sex from you.

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Not quite. You need to have the attitude of "she's lucky to be banging me".




YES. Every new poster here should read this post.

My gf and I will go out and sometimes check other people out right in each others faces and rate the people 1-10, lol. Depends on our mood. This type of confidence, and emotionally-centered playfullness will have your woman happy and opening up to you.

Look, attractive people are going to be attracted to other attractive people. It's just science. The sooner men understand this, the less insecure we become.

Now, if your gf let that guy or girl hang on her without a green light, it's time to put your foot down.



Women do this because they are horny. Men do it because they are horny. Our #1 objective in this life is to reproduce, and fuck. We are all wired on a path. If a woman sees a hot guy, it's going to make her wet. If you see a gorgeous woman, you're going to want to fuck her.

It's just science, nothing more.

Women also do this to play out fantasies, see how far you are willing to go, etc. If you are with sexually experienced 10, she's going to push your boundaries, sexually, and you should be pushing hers. How far will she go if you told her to run wild? how far would you go?

In the end, it's just playful sexual banter. And the more open minded you are, and the more chill you are, and the more you flip it into fun play in the bedroom (IE, "did you want to fuck that guy today, well, you are now " as you put the blindfold on her), the more you will keep beautiful sexually experienced 9's and 10's in your life.

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I think this is spot on. I even asked her in my pissed phase "Why are you telling me this" and she replied "I wanna be open with you and you not get mad"

Yeah I am now realizing it is just banter. But let's take this scenario and say it turns into reality. Will she actually be imagining banging another guy while you're banging her? I mean bruh.... C'MON... Wouldn't you prefer your girl to be fully in tune with you while having sex and not thinking of another guy! Who wouldn't? lol

You are never ever going to be able to keep a woman from fantasizing. Let her have her fantasies. If you have some concern...when you hit her spot during sex then remind her of who is making that happen.

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It's been 2 weeks....how many times in 2 days was your chick shutting down after saying a guy is good looking? Was this a daily argument? I'm just wondering how you'd even know a change happened after 2 weeks unless this was a near daily problem.

No. This is not realistic. We all fantasize about fucking other people. It's reality.

Sure, I'm thrilled when my gf is thinking about nothing but me. She does it more often than not. But sometimes when she's blowing me, I think about another girl. And she encourages it by acting like she is another girl ("Sarah can't suck dick as good as I, can she, Arch?" etc). I also encourage her to tell me her fantasies. and we act them out if the mood is right. It's awesome.

This open mindedness, honesty, and communication makes the sex even crazier and hotter.

My focus when in the bedroom is to make my gf and myself have sex so good it's borderline demonic. I don't care about how or why, only the end result

when you don't punish a woman for communicating her desires, and let her blossom and evolve sexually, you will be rewarded with the best sex of your life, a faithful companion, and a woman who will actively bring women home with her...for you.

This is what open minded-ness and honesty brings you. My gf told me last week there's a guy who comes into her work she'd fuck if she and I weren't together. I told her two days ago I would've fucked this girl at the gym if we weren't exclusive. Then I told her I was craving spending a winter's night with three women under my blankets (including her). We've had sex every night for the last two weeks.

What is there to hide? Don't be afraid of science. Don't fear reality. Embrace it. Evolve. Be better.

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There were several things that became daily problems. This was one of them. So yeah... I've noticed a huge change... and a great one at that. Not only from in person, as she is much more happier, more open, more talkative, MUCH less bitchy... but even the way she texts me. Emojis, lols, lots of playfulllllness like that, MUCH less seriousness. She's fucking sweet! It's fucking great!

EDIT: Oh I can't forget to mention... but she WANTS to have sex with me. My bitch got that wet wet again! When she's shut down she either completely won't do it, or do it just for me but not be in it AT ALL. Like a "w/e just bust your nut so you're happy" attitude.

Oh can you please check your PMs bro?

EDIT: I think I'm starting to fucking get it. I'm not saying I'm THAT GUY that understand bitches like the back of my hand... But I feel like I'm really starting to understand women. It's a great feeling knowing that you are one of the few percentage of males on this earth that ACTUALLY get women. What an awesome feeling and position to be in. Like... if you actually understand women... you literally have no competition out there. 97% of guys don't know WHAT THE FUCK they're doing... And I used to be one of them.

I am glad this is working out for you. I especially liked how you decided to share your opinion too. I think Arch maybe onto something with his comments about watching people. People watching is a simple thing that you can do when your out with your girl. You can politely comment on the other people and if she says something that brings out the AFC in you just respond better with a strong 'abundance mentality' way. If you notice older couples they have already had to do this.

You're heading down and already down a terrible road. Your happiness is too dependent on HER emotions. Now, i dont know...maybe your gf IS in a better state because you've cut the jealously. But whats alarming is how shitty this whole rs sounds with "daily problems", lack of sex and bitchiness. Now, you stayed, and are now a bit jealous, butI doubt this is more a sign of her being attracted to "your masculine core" because why would you have put up with it in the first place? The gist of what I just read is, whether she wants sex or not, you'll stay. Whether you have issues every day, you'll stay. Maybe she's in a better mood now for XYZ reason, so you're finally getting the relationship you want, but thats just sad and at some point you gotta have standards. She has you. And that fundamental needs to be fixed. Maybe hobbies or having a life outside of her, but you're way too dependent on her emotions. Think on what you just said," Yayyy my gf WANTS to have sex with me!!"...see how sad that sounds? This CANT be her attracted to your "masculine core" because what man speaks like this? You have to work on getting less attached, having standards for who wears that gf title, and focusing on YOUR happiness over hers. There are soooo many threads here just like this "Gf and I are having issues...wow she suddenly changed and is being nice! we are finally fucking!!!...wow she dumped me and was planning to months ago." I'm not saying thats the case but thats how I read it, so much dependence that something is about to hit the fan. I know you 2 are dfferent culture so it may be ok in the long run. I'm just saying if you truly want to present masculinity, stop putting up with daily bs, stop being glad she wants to fuck you today, and stop holding on so much. If you just did that, you wouldnt be jealous. Not getting pissed when she says a guy is hot, is just ONE fix of a BIGGER problem...ie dependance.