7 months ago I started talking to an old friend from high school, we both said we didnt want anything serious, she said she was messed up agyer her last relationship. Things got serious fast. Thinga were great other than a dew drunken nights of jealousy on my end, I went through her phone. She got iver it and we moved on. About a month ago she saud she didnt know what shd wanted and she needed time to digure herself out. I kind of pushed to keep talking, we've argued back and fourth for a month now. Havent vung out much but have ended up running into each other at the bar and having sex that night 3 times since. I finally went over last night and said this needs to be done for good or we need to fix it. She saud ahe needs thia to be done FOR NOW and I need to go be hapoy while she figures herself out. Shes far from a loose girl and doesnt sleep around but I'm having problems already with not talking to her, Im just looking for some advice on the situation.

She's done with you.

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Learn from it and move on fast, date other girls.... you snooped through her phone which indicates you are/were insecure... work on that.

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The going through her phone was almost 4 months ago. She seemed to have gotten over it, I hinestly think the bigger issue was that usually I never try to date girls and it works out in my favor. A few months usually go by before they start nagging about being official. This time was different and I let her know early on, around 3 months, I wanted to be serious with eqch other. And now she says that she needs to figure herself and her kife out. I legitimately would have settled down for this one.

Im trying to go no contact for atleast 30 days. Partially so short because I bought a new house and she has some items of mine at her place. BUT, we frequent the same gym and theres inly one good bar around here everyone goes too. I have other girls that are interested in ke but I'm stuck on this one

Women like sex just as much as men. There's a good chance she's fucking other guys. It's just science, don't be offended or sad.

The key to always having ex's come back, is to always make them orgasm and be a monster/dominant in the bedroom. It's pretty fucking simple. Or by providing tremendous value in other ways. But the key is, you have to have provided stand-out, exceptional value. When you are focused on consistent self-improvement, this comes naturally.

No matter what happens, no matter how you messed up, they will hit you back a month, 6 months, a year or three years down the road.

what happens is they want new guys, the excitement of a new dick, whatever. But if you were a man in bed, time only reveals these guys to be a disappointment sexually. The woman slowly and surely gets frustrated, and starts to think about you again. "Maybe he wasn't that bad, etc".

But by this time, if you're applying the fundamentals of self-improvement, you've gradually increased the quality of the women who blow you. And when one of these ex's hits you back, you can take great joy in standing them up at a bar like I did a few months back, haha. And then watch them go nuclear on facebook.

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What a bunch of useless drivel. FFS, reminds me why lately I've stayed away.

Well, you can always try your "express your needs constantly" method and end up getting dumped like usual.

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I actually think she's giving you great advice about herself. She needs it to be 'done for now'. There is a lot of pain and torment that life can throw a person's way. Best thing to do is go talk to ten different girls. You can even use this as a conversation piece. But say my friend instead of referring to yourself.

Yep, you don't know what the hell she means by 'done for now'. You don't have to let it mean, sit around like a dog while she figures it out. Also if she is in real trouble then just make sure she has a support network of family / friends and then leave.

If your hung up on the girl then you need to remind yourself that your enough in your life.

I'm perfectly happy with myself. Just bought a house, have a great job as a fireman, hit the gym 5 days a week and while I'm no night in shining armour I always seem to date girls pit of my league. However, this particular girl is different from my past relationships. She takes damn good care of me and is extremely independent which I find attractive. Shes got a great job as a nurse, her own place and no debt. She also works out 5 days a week at the gym I go to and hasn't alept around much unlike 90% of the girls in my area, so IMO she's wife material. She sent me a 6 page text today about how she tried to fix herself for me but she just cant seem to get anything right and every time we talk I make her feel like a shitty person because I tell her that she bullshit me for the last 7 months and that this is the last time I try and be a decent person because in all honestly I treated all my other girls like shit but they ate it up and were head over heals for me. I'm supposed to meat up with her tomorrow to drop some stuff off.... any ideas on a game olan for tomorrow?

You guys will convince yourselves of anything... Those two statements are pretty much contradictions.

Give the girl the space she's asking for. You've done all you could do; anything further well only keep you from getting what you want out of the situation. Its a blow to the ego to hear that kind of news, but we don't always win and we have to man up and accept that there is better and bigger things out there for us. Crying over spilled milk won't make it jump back into the glass. Get back out there and play again.

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We talked again today. She was going to dinner so I kept it short. I text her to let her know I'd be able to bring some stuff over to her olace after 10 tomorrow, she said she would let me know when she was leaving and leave a key outside for me. Asked her how her dinner was and she said "good, i saw your girl". Shes reffering to a waitress she THINKS i had a thing for but didnt. I text back saying glad dinner went well be safe driving. Goodnight.
I dont understand how if she's done with this she is still going to act jealous over a girl ahe thinks I meased around with. This is honestlythe besy girl I've ever met, and the most confusing all rolled into one.

Man you don't get it. She's trying to trade up and is using you ashould a backup guy because time and time again she's taken you back after you chased her for attention. Even if this girl wanted to be back with you, she'll always you to branch swing because you've demonstrated that you will be the easy option for her. This is the kind of chick that if you were instead fucking and dating other women she'd freak out and be like you didn't care about this relationship blah blah when she in face was the one who wanted to find herself and all that shit.

Oh shut it.

She doesn't give two shits about the other girl she's just doing this to keep your attention as its clearly working. You're being manipulated like a child have no idea. Wake the hell up. Take her the stuff and move the hell on with your life as soon as possible.

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Why the fuck are you being "nice" to this POS?
I would have said "Whatever, did her breath smell like my dick?" Or "Nice she has great tits!"
Did you wipe your ass on the inside of her pillow case? No? Should have.

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