Backstory:
1. met girl that was super into me
2. I was pretty attracted to her, so I was willing to go faster to get to know her.

Red Flags early on:
1. she did want to be exclusive after 3rd date, which was fast
2. she bought a ton of coke on our 3rd date, and I know she did it 3 straight weekends we were dating. after she said she hadn't done it in a year.
3. she was going to court with her ex bf and didn't want to go into details as she didn't want me to lose interest. said it was her getting a restraining order against him.

So, there was red flags, but we had a lot of fun together, she treated me extremely well. better than any girl ever has

Fall out:
1. first time we tried to have sex, it was after a beer fest and I had whisey dick
2. the second time she gave me a bj and I don't get off on bj's. not all the way and she was really pressuring me about it. I didn't really think twice about this shit tho
3. the third time, she wanted me to stick it in with like no foreplay so I wasn't all the way hard and I was trying to make her feel easy, saying I'm just a bit nervous as I like you, etc. and she responded with well lets not have sex for months. I tried to talk to her about this twice after and she said its fine, lets not talk about it
4. she was being even nicer, and going out of her way in every other aspect , so I wasn't sweating it
5. the last time I was in bed with her, she reached over and said youre not even hard. lets not have sex for months. and when on this big tangent about how I need to feel comfy and its not a big deal.
6. I kind of shut down at this point and didn't talk about it in person, I guess I was frustrated/hurt
7. we talked later about it , but she was like ok, w/e not a big deal, lets not talk about it anymore.
8. that's when I ended things as I was frustrated she refused to talk about this and kept freaking out in bed saying that my dick isn't hard and how we shouldn't have sex for a few months until I'm more comfortable with her.

was this something if I was less emotionally invested/more stable about, that it would of worked out?

Sounds like performance anxiety.

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Get a script for Viagra, dude, and maybe a small dose of xanax. That's where you lost this girl.

Always be prepared. Sometimes, you only get one chance with a woman.

I don't really care about the coke part. The court thing is fine. Many women get restraining orders because many men are creepers.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like she's the problem. Your limp dick is.

Get some viagra, and set a date with her. If she says no, game other women.

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I don't have E.D or performance anxiety. when we are in bed, she wont even kiss or rub me to get me hard. No other girl has ever said anything including the girl I slept with the time before

Bullshit. You said she gave you a bj.
Excuse for limp dick.
Excuse for limp dick.

Excuse for limp dick.

Awkward as hell.
Limp dick.

Killed her attraction.


You're in denial. You either have performance anxiety or ED, or both.

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Do you get hard when watching porn?

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yes I get hard while wathingn porn. And I got hard with the girl I had sex with 5 days before I had sex with this girl for the first time.

Yes, but that's while a girl is rubbing you. You're watching porn and rubbing yourself (don't lie). But you can't get hard in the situations that you aren't getting rubbed. Make sense?

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None of this is adding up.

He can't get hard to fuck her without getting rubbed, yet he couldn't fuck her after getting a blowjob?

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Part of the problem is porn. I didn't ask him if he watched porn...I asked if he got hard while watching it. Now to get kind of technical/nerdy...he's more than likely built a pattern of how he gets aroused. A blowjob may not cut it since he's used to a certain kind of stimulation. It's likely that if he and this girl watched porn together(or she gave him some sort of performance), he would get hard because of the visual stimulation.

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It is decided, he must go into training. Watch softcore porn until you can get a hard on standing up without touching.

I think I dodged a bullet with my last girl. It was a one day close and it was going way too fast for me. Luckily I said, "I think we're moving a little too fast. Let's wait a bit, like tomorrow morning." I slept over and we hung out the next day. That's when I had calmed down enough to seal the deal.

Any chance this is one of your first relationships? I ask because Performance anxiety goes away after a few girls.