Nice questions.
It all depends on what you want to do and where you want to go. You'll get advice from normal guys saying that you don't want that stuff you want, and that you're displaying character flaws by wanting that stuff.
So you first should get a feel for this pick-up environment. That way you'll be able to classify the advice that you get from people, and you won't get counter productive advice from people that you don't want to be like.
Have a look at this thread:
miscellaneous/rant-from-pick-artist-vt200162.html
So specifically to your question you want to obtain proper inner belief systems first. I suggest you read the attraction code by vin dicarlo and work on incorporating it into yourself for a solid foundation to build upon. It will help regardless of what you intend to do.
Also you'll need to start talking to people on a regular basis IRL.