I'm extremely awkward in social situations and I have a habit of saying the worst things at the worst times and I'm also a relatively quite person so its hard for me to get peoples attention. How do I make myself interesting and not so much of a social fuck up? This seems like a basic that i have of just being able to interact casually and I think before I even think about picking up chicks I should learn how to be interesting and casual in social situations. Do you think that is right?

Absolutely.

Being able to socialize with all kinds of people, being charming, polite and being a great conversationalist is extremely important not just with women, but in every facet of life.

if you are awkward around people or don't know how to maintain conversations, or have no clue how to start friendships you need to work on that first and foremost before anything else.

I suggest you join toastmasters to be able to receive and accept attention. You will soon start to get up and talk in front of people which will allow you to be comfortable talking to a group of people and also will allow you to modulate you voice and tonality.

Next up I would suggest find a hobby that you like to do, especially with others. The point is to be doing something you like, and do them with people you see regularly. Even if the first couple of times you do it with this group of people and its really awkward, don't worry, as long as you keep on showing up every single time. Overtime you will find that you will be able to share more of yourself with this group as you get more comfortable with them and also you will always have a subject to talk about...the hobby

There are other steps that you can do as well, but I would suggest starting there....let me know how it goes

Don't try so hard in the beginning. Just talk to each person little by little. Eventually you will find someone you click with and you can focus on that person. After you're cool with one person you move on to the next person once they see that other people are starting to like you.

As for the things you say...you should think before you speak. Maybe read up on Dale Carnegies how to win friends and influence people for starters. Good luck.

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Chicks prefer the strong silent type in my experience. Stay cool, stay calm and be the mysterious one in the room.

The people who shout the loudest have the least to say so don't stress.

Be yourself, find the people you connect with and work on that...

If you have to force yourself to enjoy other peoples company and to feel relaxed then it's the wrong group for you...

That makes sense but does that mean you can't get along with everybody? Because a lot of what I read in the forum claims to enable you to pretty much get with any girl you want if you know what your doing. Are these false claims? Because if they're not then i'd be interested in putting a lot of effort into obtaining that goal.

I'm going speak for the chicks and say that the strong silent type being a preference is absolutely false. Mysteriousness isn't all that great and usually is a mask for being shy. What you are doing when you do that "act" is making us curious and that's it. We'll want to see what's going on behind the silence and if there's nothing there then our question will be answered and we can move on. If there is something there then we'll continue to explore. The loudest person in the room is the same thing. They are usually just looking to get attention. If in a one on one conversation they start showing some depth then we'll want to know more.The guys on the forum that seem to know what they're talking about don't ever say this. They actually are more centered and accepting about not getting every girl. You must have been reading Starboy's posts and he's filling your mind with false information.

What do you mean by being centered and accepting about not getting every girl? Please help me understand. So instead of being quite or loud should I be looking for the in between the two?

They accept that they won't get every girl but they are confident enough to know that they will still get girls. I'm not saying that you have to be quiet or loud. Be you and be comfortable with that. Just don't be scared of girls.