| You need to stop looking at this as if it were an exact science and start looking at it for what it is - an artform. I can tell you're the highly analytical type, and while there's nothing wrong with that, you gotta understand that attraction is based on emotion, and not logic. Very very detailed field reports don't exist because being so hung up on details doesn't lead to any form of success.
I imagine hooking up working in a bar is much easier than in an office job but for the process is largely the same.
I'll share two of my experiences on both sides of the spectrum.
When I started working my current job, first day, I immediately set my eyes on 2 coworkers. One of them wasn't exactly my type but she was cute nonetheless.
The other I couldn't help but stare at for most of the first day meeting. And she noticed me looking at her once or twice.
Over the next few days I'd just randomly talk to her during coffee breaks or lunch breaks. I wasn't being friendly and fun, I was being flirty and fun.
Turns out she lived in the same part of town so before leaving work that day I asked if she wanted a lift. We began leaving work together regularly.
As we were driving home she asked if I liked the new job and how it's going. I told her that I'm deciding the fate of this new company I started working at, how I have to take my private jet for an important lunch meeting tomorrow, etc etc. Obvious exaggerations. She played along.
For some reason I mentioned I needed a few things from the mall, she said she needed some too, so I invited her to be my new fashion adviser and come with.
So she did, I continued flirting with her, teasing if she liked clothing I didn't and complimented if she liked things I did.
After shopping was done I suggested we go grab a few drinks since I didn't feel like going home yet. 5 cocktails later I mentioned something about going to the gym so she places her hand on my chest to measure my fitness. Obviously I do the exact same to her, since it's only fair. She playfully punches me in the arm.
Few minutes later we're on the dancefloor, I pull her in and kiss her. She's all kinds of sexy.
She didn't come home with me that night, but did a few days later.
We remained fuck buddies for about 6 months. That happened about two years ago. Had another fling with her this summer.
We're still good friends and occasionally hang out.
Second example.
New girl joined the office, had a nice ass. On her first day I saw her in the kitchen so I introduced myself, introduced her to a few people, asked a few questions here and there. Noticed she had an iPhone Gold so I evidently started giving her shit for it. iPhone and Princess became my nicknames for her.
Again, flirty and fun.
In the following days I just invited her to lunch breaks and/or coffee breaks, helping her integrate and get an overall look&feel.
Banter was ongoing during work since we use SPAM for Business. I was kinda having fun with myself sending her all kinds of sexually charged songs. Like The Weeknd.
Few weeks later we had a teambuilding event at hotel outside town. We danced, I kept escalating visibly turning her on and them abruptly stopping. About half hour later I tell her to come join me in my room for a few shots of Jägger - since my friend and I brought a couple of bottles that the hotel wasn't serving. She complies and sits on my bed while I get the bottle out. Did two shots, I get up, grab her hand, slam her against the wall and passionately kiss her.
You could almost feel the floor getting wet as clothes start flying.
And that's that. Few days later we're back at the office and I invite her for a game of ping pong in the rec room. We get there, and instead of making a left towards the table I push her to the right towards the bathroom. She figures out what's going on and you can see the cheekiest smile on her face. Women love feeling desired.
That was a good day.
The first girl was single.
The second was in a relationship. Still is actually. They just moved in together.
Either way the reason I'm pointing out being on great terms with these girls is because you typically will see people telling you to stay away from office affairs. I don't think you should stay away from a girl simply because you work together. Just don't go for crazy, it's that simple.
So there's my examples. Everything comes down to flirting and not being afraid to show interest. Kino ties in with escalating. If a girl isn't comfortable touching your hand she's not comfortable touching your lips. Pretty straight forward.
How fast you ask her out has everything to do with how fast you can build a connection with her. And that tends to be easier done at the workplace, because you see these people on a daily basis.
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