When texting a girl to hang out, should I mention it's not a date?
Or don't say anything about it?

Why would you not mention it being a date?

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To reduce pressure. I don't know; that's why I'm asking.

Also, I am going after this girl that says she doesn't want to date anyone but is still hitting me up, so...

I pretty much knew that was the answer. The only pressure that you're alleviating is your own pressure that you feel. If a woman likes you, she'll want to go out on a date with you. A woman will "hang out" with you for just so she won't hurt your feelings and then after 30 minutes leave for what she really has planned for the evening.

For me, I let women know it's a date. I don't want her thinking I have any intentions about a friendship or "I thought we were only hanging out as friends" the moment that I start showing any type of physical affection towards her. I'd rather put more pressure in the beginning so there won't be pressure towards the end.

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That sounds legit. I am jus trying to separate the actions from the words. So confusing. Not sure how to handle this one girl who says she doesn't want to date anyone right now. I guess with her I just won't say anything, but for any new girls, I will not be shy about saying it's a date.
Thanks for the feedback.

Do you really think she's saying that she wants to live a celibate lifestyle right now? Normally, when women say things like this it's either to let you down easily or letting you know that she isn't into the idea of a monogamous relationship. In most cases, if they are telling you this before you ever go out on a date with her, she is expressing disinterest in you specifically.

Keep in mind, I'm explaining this to you as a general statement. There's not enough information for me in the post to be absolutely positive about what's actually going on with this specific girl.

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I would suggest not using the word "date".

Today's young, attractive women are extremely leery of that word. It usually means you're exclusive or consistent with someone. Women who are not leery are desperate and clingy.

"hang out", "meet up", "party", are all better options early on.

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Both of you guys are clearing things up for me. I think "dating" means exclusive and that is what she is speaking to. A rejection is a rejection, no problem, but when she says she doesn't want to date coupled with wanting to hang out again, non-exclusive makes more sense.

Yep. Play it cool. If you do all the things right, she'll want to be exclusive in a month or two (if that's what you want).

Also, it sounds to me like you pushed the issue a bit with her, thus her "I'm not into dating right now" response.

Cool that shit.

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That must be a regional thing. Where I live and the cities that I've traveled to, the word date means a man and a woman going out even with you, attractive women. I do know that "dating" means exclusive in some areas but most places I go it means that you're going out together but not in a relationship.

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Her: "Sure, I'd go out on a date" - Fairly clear. A "date" in this context meaning a first time meet up to see how things go.

Her: "I'm not into dating anyone right now" - In this context, "dating" means she doesn't want an exclusive relationship, but she still might want to fuck.

I agree it's not all that clear, but it is the vernacular these days.

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How?

By calling it a date. Sometimes, when I'm flirting, I'll tell a woman that I have no intention of being just friends...therefore a date. Sometimes it's me saying "I want to take you out". I just make sure there's never ever any confusion on my intent with her.

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That's something I really need to pick up. But I don't know man, I don't even feel like calling it a date unless I'm 1000% sure I really want her, which to me doesn't really happen without some time spent together. Odd.

I'm with Jack, best to say its a date. Better to be upfront with your intentions, than hope to change her mind. Now OP, in your case, a chick has prob friendzoned you, and you're trying to sneak in and charm her, instead of moving on. You can tell her its just a friendly hangout, just dont go get mad when you make a move and she says wtf.