Hey guys.

I hope this is a relevant subforum.

So it happened. Me and my my gf opened our relationship after being monogamous for 4 years. So you can imagine my game is rusty af, and so far i have been mostly night gaming + few day approaches. The situation is just a bit weird because i have to keep it very discreet on my end, while my fiancee has promised to tell me the details. This agreement suits us both at this stage.

I would assume that most puas are single, so im looking for some peer advice on gaming while being in relationship. What are your methods? When do you bring it up that you are in an relationship? What are your experiences of girl's reactions of you being taken?

-Cheers!

Why do you need to be very discreet on your end???

She told you that she would tell you the details if something happens with someone else and yet you want to be discreet and make sure she doesn't catch you in anything?

Wear a wedding ring. Or stick with online...where you can spell it out.

Chicks dig a taken man...so this should be easier for you.

The thing is, she wants to keep on "Dont ask dont tell" policy with my affairs, to cope with jealousy I guess. Hopefully we can move onward to even more open communication in future, as this gets more comfortable. I would like a relationship where ww share our experiences, maybe get more fire to our bedroom...

I have Tinder account, where i put in bio that im in an open relationship. Havent used other services yet...

And yes, we have rings (we're engaged). I have actually noticed that at alot of times, i tens to keep my left hand in my pocket during approach and convo, until about 5-10 mins in i let somehow know that im taken... I actually felt disinterest on behalf of some girls, and also many girls go straight ibto the "potential friend" mode, if you know what i mean.

So she wants you to know about how other guys fuck her yet you are concerned whether she gets jealous if she finds out you did the same.

Stop worrying about if she finds out about you with someone else.

Also be assured that for every girl that you fuck she is fucking 5 guys.

More like 30-1. But...

lol
2x lol.

Yeah, that's totally realistic.

OP who's idea was this?

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This was actually a mutual idea to go open. And its not that "she will let me know" , i insisted on openness on her behalf since i get rush of emotions if i get to know... haha and yeah i feel you guys on the 1-30 thing. Thats really true, she can get anyone she wants basically, she is like HB9, but i dunno, we both do have unrealistically high standard on persons to lay with, and so far, its been pretty quiet lol.

Idea rose due to lack of fire in bedroom dept. Usual stuff in LTR...

Probably late coming to the party, but I have some experience. Our marriage was open for 3 years or so. We stopped because we hit a rough patch, and it wasn't helping matters.

With regards to your question, I never cold approached in person. Yes chicks dig taken men, but they loathe taken men who come onto them.

Online is how I did it, but it's hard to find women who want only what you can offer. Most claimed to be looking for that and nothing more, then tried to pull the bait and switch after you get to know each other some. I always put it up front right away. I had the best success with married couples who were also open. I.E. use swinging as a way to meet a couple and progress to playing separately. We found that was actually easier than playing together because it's easier to align schedules for 2 people than it is for 4.

Like you, my wife rarely wanted to hear about my experiences. Only once in a great while while we were fucking would she seem to actually enjoy hearing about it. Conversely, while I didn't want to hear it all the time, it was a turn on to hear her tell me what a whore she'd acted like sometimes when we were fucking. Mostly, it's just an alternative to use when you feel like having fun and the other person isn't in the mood, etc. Seems like everyone does it a little different. I say do what you want, and if you don't like how it's going, change the rules. You can quit anytime or adjust to suit you. It's your game, play it how you want.