how do you handle a situation in which a girl doesn't give you anything to work with?

I dont know if the girl is nervous or just not interested. either way, this forces me into interview mode, it ruins and derails my entire (non-existent) game.

i dont know if the problem is me, or them, is it the way i approach? does this happen to everyone, even skilled PUAs?

if you cant picture the scenario when I say "doesn't give you anything to work with" I am talking about when you approach someone and you ask a question and she gives one word answers and doesn't make much eye contact and you know she is thinking "this guy is so annoying" and at the same time you are thinking "this isn't going anywhere, why am i here?" it's hard for me to describe the situation, but you know what i am talking about if you have ever been there.

how do you handle this?

Don't try to force the square peg into the round hole.

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If she answers with a lot of "uhhhh..." and "ummmmmm..." and looks out the side of her eyes away....It's time to find someone else. You wasted a whole one minute of your time. Plenty left.

she doesn't say "uhhhhh..." or "ummmmmm" (I know what you're talking about, when a girl looks at her phone and makes herself look busy)

in this instance, she doesn't look at her phone. she answers all your questions. she is present. but she just appears...whats the right word....distant

there is something "off" about the interaction, it's just not working. I cant identify why.

I should also mention she is NOT bitchy.

What kind of questions are you asking her?

Don't judge her answer solely on her words. Did she give you any flirtatious look before she answered your question, was her body turn to the fastest exit or to you?

Anyway, bottom line is: Don't spend your time chasing girls who have no interest in you.

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So she's shy then. Doesn't like small talk. Who knows, without being there. Read the body language, voice tone, ...it usually tells all.

I try to purge every interaction from my memory so it doesn't eat me alive. If I remember them, then I will start blaming myself and that affects my approach anxiety. but I do remember asking "where are you from?" "when did you move?" "did you move with your parents or separate?" "are you waiting for the bus?" "do you take the bus or uber?" ugh....now i see these are lame.

Thanks, this is excellent advice, reading her body language instead of what she says. usually I am so focused on myself that I cant read her. sometimes I dont even remember the girl's face because my mind was so occupied with myself, my brain didnt even register her face.

Can you actually use the advice bart............this time....

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These will definitely get her wet and thinking about what a fun guy you are.

There are 2 kinds of girls in the world - the ones that talk a lot, and the ones that are more quiet and
reserved.

To the ones who talk a lot, you ask a simple question and they talk for hours. But the secret to talking to
shy girls is you need to ask what's called "open ended questions"

These questions require her to think about what to say and she can't give you a one word answers.

So if you ask her "what school do you go to?" and she answers with "I study Law." you want to ask
another open ended question, like this:

So you say, "Wow law. What made you go into it?"

And if she's super shy, you want to add a "suggestive answer" (don't let the big word scare you) which
basically means you add an "this or that".

So you say, "Wow law, what made you go into it? Did your parents made you do it or was there a
mission you wanted to accomplish?"

Get it?

Let's say she has a job as an accountant. You say, "Wow accounting, that sounds super boring (add a tease).
But tell me, what made you go into accounting? (open ended question) Did you really want it or was there
some other reason? (suggestive answer)"

Right?

More examples of questions:

"What do you like most about accounting? What do you hate the most about accounting"

"What do you like the most about law? What do you hate the most?"

ETC.

Really if I were to put it in a word, I would say be more CURIOUS about her. Be genuinely curious as to why
she's doing what she's doing, and you'll see a shift in your conversations.

So to recap:

1) Ask an open ended question
2) Give suggestive answers to help her answer if she's super shy

Good luck man,

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thanks bro, this is good and i will test it out, but i still believe some girls force you into interview mode and it's their fault. when the girl is being boring, that causes me to become boring too.

Yea, and there is a rule you want to follow. When I start a conversation, I start screening the girl very quickly. My frame when I start a conversation with a girl is I EXPECT the girl to talk to me and be engaging.

Jot that down and think about that for a second. What does it mean to expect her to be engaging?

If she isn't, that's my sign to leave the conversation. But I'm not leaving because she doesn't like me, but because
that conversation isn't interesting.

You can't however use this when you don't have the convo skills mentioned before. Develop your skills, so that
then you can say, "This girl just isn't interesting" and leave to the next one.

Good luck,

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