| “My formula for human greatness is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not in the future, not in the past, not for all eternity. Not only to endure what is necessary, still less to conceal it — all idealism is falseness in the face of necessity — , but to love it...”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
One of the biggest reasons most guys don't approach as much as they should is because of rejection. More specifically, most men cant handle the rejection; they become depressed, feel worthless, and begin to see this whole thing as hopeless.
What most men need is a strong shift in mindset. Rejection isn't the problem, but rather they way the see the problem is the problem.
If one seeks to master cold approach then they must accept that rejection is a part of that and isn't something that can ever be completely overcome. While rejection will always be there one must not always be scared of it. Rejection isn't even a bad thing!
A few things you must understand:
- Cold approach pickup is a process. Every rejection gets you one step closer to getting laid.
- Rejection will always be there. If you take it as a bad thing you are going to spend your entirity being constantly upset.
- Rejection builds your "inner citadel" and makes you stronger.
- Rejection is feedback and allows you to learn and improve.
Rejection is a fact of life. You can be mad, upset, discouraged, or feel hopeless all you want but it doesn't change the fact that its always going to happen as long as you approach women. This need not be a bad thing, however, as every rejection gets you one step closer to meeting a women who will sleep with you.
Not only does it get you closer to meeting a women who will go home with you, rejection will make you stronger in mind and spirit. You can use this new inner resolve in every facet of life. Life is full of obstacles and those with inner resolve, the will to persevere, will be the ones to overcome and to succeed where lesser men fail.
Rejection also acts as a learning opportunity. While sometimes rejection has nothing to do with you or anything you did wrong, often times you can look back on the interaction and find mistakes and other areas you did less than well. Every rejection is feedback that allows you to learn and improve, to make yourself better for future approaches.
Why fear something that provides you with so many excellent opportunities? Why become depressed over something that brings you one step closer to getting laid? Change your perception of the "problem" and the problem will cease to exist.
Vires acquirit eundo,
Jeff "Warped Mindless" Stanton
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