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Yes, I am aware that half the guys here think I am learning nothing and ignoring all the advice offered and, and, and. However is this entirely untrue and frankly that is their problem. I don't expect many people to bother to fully read nor resonate with the anecdote(s) above, but to the extent than they fail see the significance of the anecdotes illustrates the extent to which I need to avoid their advice.
The point here is that I am trying to get clear on to exactly where I am setting my compass. And to where I am absolutely NOT setting my compass. Like I say, as a noob I am learning a lot of useful/helpful stuff already, including in this thread. But this whole areas does seem like an extraordinarily treacherous path and one needs to be true to oneself, so I definitely pick and choose what is to be on my journey.
All input welcome!

Ship,
Just by your writing alone, I feel you are very intelligent, a straight thinker, conservative, just, fair.
I'm sure you are reading, absorbing, categorizing. Putting everything in their own little piles - Bullshit - Logical advice - Golden nuggets you'd like to use in the near future.
Very logical.
But that's the problem.
Women Are Not Logical .
Women come pre-wired to think and act based upon their emotions. When a man starts using logic and reason to persuade a woman, right away you are fucked (not in the good way.
Women simply want to have fun and enjoy the moment. There is no thinking or following logical plans when it comes to having fun.
They want to follow YOU to the fun. They expect YOU to lead them to it.
So many men are only focused on getting serious or being serious. They don’t know how to just relax and have a good time. They over-think the fuck out of everything and ruin the fun.
Women want to be in a fairyland, full of rainbows, warm hugs, sunshine, and earth shattering orgasms.
THEY - Do - NOT - GIVE - A - SHIT how they got there, only that they ARE there.
Using logic on their fun to them, is like throwing sand on their cookies. No fun.
Keep that logic Ship, It'll likely earn you lost of money.
But when it comes to women, leave the logic at work, and just have fun.
All I will say is that the resetting my compass does without question require intelligence, justice, fairness and yes, logic. How the plane is actually flown - in and out of rainclouds & thunderstorms etc - in order to get there is a very different process for sure! Yes, I have learnt my lesson about how irrational women tend to be particularly when it comes to love/sex/romance. [Aside: Us men can be pretty irrational too when the heart is involved. The head and the cock are much more predictable!]
So let's not conflate the two things. A) Choosing where to reset my compass bearing and B) the minute-by-minute actual flying the plane.