| Phone game, text game, etc should be the last thing that you try to figure out if you're new. Your goal should be first to get your attitude and actions ready through practice, in my opinion, but once that's done you should be trying to have sex with a girl that same day or night you meet her. It is actually easier to do than to start a conversation, escalate half-assed or not at all, then try to arrange a meet later where you do the actual pickup. I learned this when I was in college and immediately afterwards: I thought I was great on day 2s and lousy on approaches. In reality, what happened was I was being timid at first, and only after getting a boost of "oh she's hanging out it's safe to really try now" did I make a play.
Here's the thing you have to understand - a great pickup is where you can stimulate a woman's brain in a way where you are associated with men she fucks. Yes, it sounds geeky, but remember women aren't as turned on by visuals as men. Emotions and memories are what's going to turn her on, so your job is to escalate, because the only guys she is used to seeing this behavior from are her boyfriends, fuckbuddies, lovers whatever. In fact, even if you start to do this and then stop out of fear instead of making a play (when I say this I mean go for sex for the record), when you try to reinitiate via text or phone call she'll start to analyze you. You become a dating profile as she actively looks for reasons to reject you. This isn't out of hatred or fear, but rather human nature that when we are given control and the chance to be logical we become much more picky than during a spontaneous moment. You text her and she thinks "I mean...he doesn't have six pack abs, and I only fuck guys with six pack abs" or "I don't fuck black guys" or any number of other bullshit rules she's probably violated ten times already that year. When you go for the phone number and not the lay, you invite this situation.
Now of course a huge part of this working in your favor, going for the same day lay, is that you not judge her for it and even give her a reason to suspect you would do this. This means you take accountability for the sex happening. Specifically, you lead the interaction and give her the option to follow along. It's the difference between saying "let's have drinks back at my place" and "do you want to go home with me?" Part of the game is realizing that women are judged harshly by their peers for sexual behavior and attitudes and doing your part to assure her that you are above that (which is helped by actually being above that).
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