I'm in a weird place right now. It's affecting my sales performance and my life. *I am not a master at life or game, I'm here to learn and develop.

I've fallen for a girl, we met online, at the time she was in Germany and coming over here to study, we stayed in touch, she arrived in NZ in July and we've spent many weekends together and she's been showing IOIs every time we meet. She's comfortable with touch and says she really enjoys spending time with me. The main problem is she's got a boyfriend back home, I followed someone else's advice and had a chat with her and told her "I don't want to ruin the relationship you have now, but I see a future of us" her response was simply "You can't plan things like that". After 2-3 days, she's started to give me the silent SPAM, she acts different in person and then different online, I'm not sure if her BF is getting her to behave differently or what?

This is the first time in life where I've fallen for someone. I want her. I don't know what I should do?
We haven't kissed, I've made her cry, a few weeks ago when I couldn't take it any longer, I said that I wish we had never met. My life would be better and that we should stop seeing each other.

I'm lost. P.s. Remember I've never had a girl friend before or fallen for any girl before and I'm 21 currently.

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I do things that make me HAPPY, and put a SMILE on my face.

Get over ir and move on.

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These hos ain't loyal

oneitis.

-- this is the feeling that a particular woman is actually special. This is just an illusion; she is the same as the other three or so billion. "Go fuck ten other women" is the most commonly prescribed SPAM for this "disease" (hence the "itis"), as it tends to show quite quickly how very alike people are.--

IMO, you are in depression, so this helped me one year ago, when i was in similar situation:

1. Don't stay alone, be with your family & friends
2. Watch comedy shows/movies, play games
3. work on your looks & build a charming body
4 Never ever contact her until your mind comes in healthy state
5. start makings plans to make more money or get a job if jobless
6. Don't fall to ruin for love

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Argh. Sounds like you had "a talk" prematurely and she said that to make you feel good. No girl actually says this, they just come over or hit you up to hang out.

This will happen every single time you try to rush things with a woman. Attractive women have radars for needy, too-soon emotional men and will dump them like it's nothing.

You acted like an uncentered woman by rushing things and talking feelings/relationship. All you have to do is be FUN and chill. You demonstrated early on you are focused on "serious" shit. It's the wrong way to go.

Do not contact her for two weeks. Then send this text:

"I'm headed up to Bar X for a drink, you're welcome to come along."

I'm sorry to say this, but she acted like a centered, dominant male and you acted like an upset girl. Attractive women will not put up with this shit.

Talk to other women, and hit this one up down the road. You need a "neediness cleanse" with this one.

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That's what I think as well, we've planned a trip for the 21st October, staying there for 2 nights and her birthday is on the day we head back 23rd October. After that she heads back to for 2 months, and will be back next year to study.

I think that break will be good for us. I only had that talk because I took some bad advice.

My main intentions whenever I meet her are to have an amazing, and fun time.

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I do things that make me HAPPY, and put a SMILE on my face.

That trip was kind of important information, lol.

But congratulations, I hope it goes well! You know what to do. Be fun, and let her bring up any emotional stuff.

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Go and approach 10 girls this weekend. And remember acting needs/clingy is a feminine trait. So when you act more feminine this will turn a women off.

What he said.....