This girl and I have been in a REALLY weird space lately. I'll admit we've both been playing games. The last time we spoke I reached out to her and she seemed receptive. She then initiated contact 9 days later and said she said "Called to talk. I wanted to address the elephant in the room so to speak lol" . She called me which she never really does, didn't leave a vm but followed up with a text saying this. I'll admit we've both been playing games and haven't been too sure about her interest level.

1.Address the elephant in the room the same as 'we need to talk'?
2.Rejection looming?

She thinks that the two of you are pretending not to notice something that is obvious. There's not enough information to go on for us to say what that may be.

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Thanks. I guess I'm just thinking it might be bad since she randomly wants to talk after 9 days of silence on her end.

Is being physically in the same space as a chick somehow become super complicated?

I swear, half the posts are guys not meeting up with chicks, the other half is guys not doing anything on dates.

Invite her over

Has there been physical contact?

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Yea there has.

What level?

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We've had sex, but we haven't really been talking all that much in the past month or so. Like I said a really weird space.

A few weeks ago I said I was around her way and she said "oh ok cool". Took that as her blowing me off/not interested. So after 2 weeks after that she said her friend said she saw that I was around her way and asked to grab coffee. Correct me if I'm wrong here, but I thought she was toying with me or is it was a friendly invitation. 2 weeks before you blow me off, now that your friend tells you I'm around now you want grab coffee after 2 weeks? So I blew her off (wrong move I know). So that's when I reached out to her a few days later and we just talked like normal and she didn't bring up what happened. So this is when after 9 days of no contact (I was last to initiate) she randomly calls and said she wanted to talk.

Like I said we've both played games but her behavior just seems like she's just trying to be friendly or toying with me/trying to make a fool of me right?

Don't you think it would be easier if YOU weren't playing games?

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Well at least the OP had sex with the girl. A welcome reprieve from guys in love with girls they haven't even touched.

There's a very, very simple solution to most of these problems:

You (via text): Hey sassy, I'm heading to Bar X tonight, come along.

Her: Okay.


Then you escalate in person.

Or, if she says no, game other women.

That's it. No hidden secret techniques or codes. No magic texts.

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I don't know. If I'm interested in someone I'm not going 9 days, especially after they initiated. I would think it would be my turn so to speak.

Things could be fine OP, but my guess is it's not.

She went 9 days without saying anything, then just randomly says she wants to talk. If she was testing you so to speak she could've just started a new conversation with you but instead she gave you the ominous "we need to talk". Usually when someone says this good news doesn't follow. If she hadn't gone 9 days without speaking to you or at least eased her way into saying she wanted to talk then I would be more optimistic.

If the tables were turned and man did that to me I would think he was withdrawing and this we need to talk/address the elephant in the room talk was him gearing up to end things...

I mean, wouldn't it have been easier to just call her back and find out what she wants..






























































Instead of asking us?

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Yeah OP, sounds like you're the one playing games. Like, you took that ok cool when you were around her way insecurely and shut down. Maybe she was fucking some guy, maybe she was sick, maybe she was busy...to go from she didnt jump on you when you were "around her way" to freezing out was crazy.

And yeah, just call her. It's sad when a chick has to be the one to call out game playing.

You're not dating or even in a relationship if you haven't talked in 9 days. She's some girl you fucked that you are pretending is a relationship but she's obviously not into it on that level.... you creeped her out to put it simply and now she's assuming, after 9 days of no contact, that you would have gotten the picture but instead, you still can't figure it out..

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now bro. We've been fucking for 5. Living together for 3 though. And you know what?? If she went missing on me for 9 days, I would have moved on after 3. Take the fucking hint man. Stop being that creep.

I don't know, man. She reached out to him after nine days. Normally a girl will just ghost after nine days.

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