Dear forum readers!

I would need a third (fourth, ...) opinion on this situation. I have a woman at work, colleague of me
who openly flirts with each guy. We went out once on a Saturday night, and once on a Friday night, walking and talking 2-3 hours, drinking beers. We had fun. We were planning to travel to Hungary together.

At work, I kept
getting al the IOIs: touching, creating cute nicknames for
me, letting me
know when she comes or leaves.

However, my close colleagues in my
room
told
that they saw her
flirting really hot with the IT-guy at workplace. I also saw them shortly, holding hands, no kissing though.

Last week we went out to a party with colleagues. She sat close to
me
all
night! Was really cute, tried to
make sure that I
enjoy my
time. This IT guy was also there, but she barely
talked to
her. However, she kept
ME telling that he is a cute bear, watched him dancing, became little angry at a girl who danced close to
him
naming her "bitch" to
me.

I became really jealous without telling her
what
my
problem
is and went "cold". I really wanted to get rid off her.

As a result, her IOIs stopped, but we still
keep
texting each other at work, planning lunch, having coffee. She complained that I stopped teaching her Hungarian.

So my question:
What would be your strategy now? I like her and I would really like to start something with her. However, I am deadly jealous and my self confidence around women is nearly destroyed now.

Im a newbie and never played the game. /Sorry for
my
English, I am not native.

thanks!!!!!!

D.

You don't concern yourself with other men that a SINGLE woman may be dating. When she's with you, you get her to focus her attention on you and create positive emotions.

Attractive, single women have options. When you meet them there is always going to be another guy in the picture until you become so attractive that the other options are no longer desired.

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Just quit bullshitting around, take her home and fuck her before someone else does.

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This.

A friend once told me, "if you want to get involved with a woman who doesn't have men in her life, date an ugly girl or a nun".

And to the OP, I'd worry less about all the pointless observations in your post, and worry more about why you're not escalating. It's like you've replaced your sexuality with gossip and needy observations.

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Thanks!

The problem is that in such situations I quickly lose self confidence.
I see that other men flirt with "my" girl and she responds to it really well
they laugh, sit in each other's lap, hold hands, etc. After seeing that, I simply
do
not have the balls to escalate when we are two with her.

What could I do, not to lose confidence in such situations?

D.

Don't be prone to losing it in the first place.
These aren't the kind of questions that will receive quickfix answers.

If I find myself in situations such as this I'll just play along and teach her how to seduce him. Meanwhile I'm doing just that. To her.

I have fun with it, but to be honest all you need to know is that she's with you at the current moment, not with him. So are you going to act on that or nah?

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I dont. They are now obviously together so I dont think I should push further.

But thanks for all the advice! I think I now where did I do wrong this "game".

I really should try to find out how to keep self confidence and not to become
jealous too early.

Fix your fucking formatting if you want help man. What the hell were you on when you typed this up?

You can organize your post a bit better man. This wasn't an easy read, and you should be doing your best to make things as easy as possible toward the people who you come to for help.

Anyway,

You want the truth?

Its not going to happen. Every work place has this "flirty" friendly type of girl that enjoys the attention, favor, and male approval that comes with flirting with the guys in the office. Just look at you, on some forum asking about her, and you probably aren't the only one. You haven't escalated, you haven't made a real move, you've just been doing her favors(teaching her Hungarian, giving her attention, etc.), and now that it feels like she's slipping away you've become desperate and are now looking for help. Thats like looking to get an oil change after the car has been totaled.

You're only shot is to take away that which you've been giving. Pull back on the attention, focus on interactions with other coworkers, and more importantly focus on providing the best service you can for the company you work for. Its a slim chance, because you've already waiting until its too late - the point in which you've become needy, jealous, and possessive about some girl you haven't even slept with. But perhaps she'll take notice, start coming onto you stronger, and then you can MAKE YOUR MOVE - something it seems like you haven't done.

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Gotta escalate. If you can't because you are afraid, you'll hit this same wall every damn time.

So fold this hand, go talk to other women, and practice escalation. If you really need to learn how, Google an escalation ladder. There's a bunch, I used the dicarlo one when I was learning. It won't fix your lack of confidence but it's a teaching tool. For confidence, gotta set some goals and reach them. Big goals, little goals, so long as they are tangible goals that you can say you accomplished without someone else confirming. Go do something, please.

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Thanks for reading and all the advice!


D.