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So I met this girl from my old school and we really got along. I was very beta in my actions so we remained friends but always knew she liked me. 2 months down the road she decided to start escorting. She's now been doing it for half a year but since we've gotten closer. I got her on a "day 2" actually just hanging out with her alone. I escalated when for The kiss as soon as I saw her. She gave me the cheek but I persisted we held hands and I made out with her. She offered to pay for the tab. She tells me she sees potential in me for something greater. Possible LTR? She doesn't have many people she can trust. What makes it hard is that I knew her before she started doing this and she's told me she has feelings for me. We click really well. I just don't know where to go from here. Any thoughts? I realize she most likely won't stop immediately but I really do like her and I feel confident enough to stick with her. Definitely a 10btw.
Let me give you a bit of advice, for you to heed.
One of my last relationships was with a girl who had an escort past. I found out about her history through someone else who had happened upon an 'old' add of hers online. I was not privy to this little tidbit of information until about half a year into the relationship, and after confronting her on it (to which she'd completely denied the ad as being hers) I had ended things only to foolishly allow her back into my life weeks later. I continued on with this person. I sacrificed some of my core values. I have since put them in the past, and have grown considerably from that experience.
It was, to put things mildly, a living hell I had chosen to endure.
It is sad, especially when it is someone you truly care about, but the reality is that women who escort always have a bit of a taint to them. They have a mentality of easy money and entitlement - they learn that there are suckers out there they can bilk to live the 'easy' life, but in reality their existence rings rather shallow.
When her and I reconnected, it was surreal - part of me knew her, yet part of me didn't. Even stepping foot back into her apartment felt alien to me in spite of me having been there hundreds of times prior to my discovery. You cannot change her. I could not change her, in spite of my mental health background, my training, my life experience. Remember where you are in life now is the sum result of all the choices you've made up to this point. Make better choices, live a better life. More often than not they're lone wolves and can't hold friends, especially female friends because others can often smell it on them like a cheap perfume. They will refuse to hold a 'normal' job, and at that point why would they as they can make several times the amount of money serving tables or at a bar. Their minds are wired for that quick fix. As the old saying goes "Can't turn a hoe into a housewife".
For a time I chose the former at the expense of the later. I still care about this person and have since moved on to something far healthier (even being alone would have been a healthier option). An escort is a prostitute. Many escorts and sugar babies will try to lend an air of respect to their profession in differentiating themselves from prostitutes on some trivialities (e.g., "I don't stand on street corners" "I don't have a pimp" or "I thought if I could find love then even a bonus").
These are women with damaged histories. Avoid them like the plague.
CHAT
