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So I asked her on a day 2 and as Soon as I saw her I went for a kiss, she gave me the cheek and I said "nice way to ruin the moment."
I love the way you handled it, but don't try kissing women out of the blue like that man. When a date begins, it can be a bit awkward. And when a date ends it can be even more awkward and pressuring, because that's when most guys think it's a good idea to finally bust a move out. She knows exactly what's up, and it's just not a good overall feeling.
In reality both scenarios are pretty awful.
If you want it to flow smoothly, do it during the date. At a highpoint, when you're having the most fun/feeling the most connected. Lead up to it, get in closer, look at her more intensely. She'll feel the tension rising and will welcome it because it's in the right emotional context. It's a natural followup as opposed to letting things cool off and then trying to abruptly pick them up again.
That's how you escalate and close successfully. Same applies when she's at your place. Let her get comfortable with the apartment, have a drink laying around and offer a glass, show her cat videos on youtube or whatever and get closer.
The movie is just as clichee as the end-of-date kiss. It's pressuring and overused as fuck.
Regarding how long to wait, you should wait however long you want.
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