Hey guys,

I am a long time browser of the forums but have never posted before. However, I have an interesting situation that I would love some advice on.

- Met this girl (let's call her Alice) about 2 months ago at my housewarming party. One of my male friends brought her and another male friend. During that party I was hitting on a different girl which had to leave so then I shifted my attention to Alice and we got good rapport and kino but didn't really advance further that night
- I then hosted an event at my apartment about a month later and invited her over in a friendly way. She came, had a good time, hung out with the group, and we chatted quite a bit but didn't really get sexual in any way
- At this point, I was thinking she was not interested and that if I wanted to pursue her it would be a long process but I asked her out to get drinks 2 weeks later anyways in a very casual way: "I'm going to be checking out the rooftop bars this Friday. Feel free to tag along"
- She joined me at the rooftop bar, we got a drink, then switched to a club and within 10 minutes we were making out and heading back to my place that night (about 3 weeks ago). We ended up having pretty average sex. Not particularly mindblowing though I'm still pretty attracted to her.
- I went on travel a few days after that for a week and have texted her casually inviting her out twice since then (once for each of the past 2 weeks). Both times she has replied to my texts with excuses to take a raincheck ("friends in town" last weekend, "really busy with work and working weekends" for not hanging out this weekend)

My read is that she is no longer interested (she either wanted to sleep with me and got it out of her system, she didn't enjoy the sex much, or something else) but I'm puzzled as to why she is being so coy about it. I also completely misread her the first time around (I didn't think she was too interested but she clearly was - and her types of responses were similar to the current ones). I'm thinking of letting things cool off, focus on a few other girls, and then reach out again casually in a few weeks. Alternatively, I'm thinking of asking her point blank if she is no longer interested. Yet another option is to invite her to another party/event at my place with more people as if nothing happened to defuse whatever may be going on and then get sexual again.

Any thoughts? I'm seeing this as yet another educational opportunity in understanding the female psyche

Thanks!

If she's a 9 or a 10, it's over.

These women will mercilessly cull and blow off guys who fail to dominate in the bedroom, and who are bad kissers. They want strong men and don't have time to train boys....not when their social media apps and co-workers are blowing them up daily. You are better off going too hard and pushing boundaries than going too weak and wimpy (they'll consider you "edgy" a few months after a few boring dudes/dates and come back).

If she's a 5-8, you still have a shot. Just back off and do not contact her until she contacts you.

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bad sex

OP, all I read is that you met a girl and eventually went out for drinks and ended up having sex. The end. You don't describe anything that would have made you worth coming back to after the social proof that you had because of your party. I didn't read anything about any emotional triggers you may have pulled during your date. If you had mediocre sex and a mediocre date, what's the reason to come back for a second time?

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