Greetings Everybody!

I need your thoughts and opinions about my current situation. I'm not very experienced with pick up terminology, but please feel free to speak your mind.

Around February last year a girl I liked approached me and offered FWB type of relationship, I wasn't super comfortable with it, but I was hoping that physical aspect will help me get her emotional attachment.

And it worked!
Later she admitted that it was my abs and sense of humour that got her to like me.

Few months in, things are great (Honeymoon phase?). She's not much into PDA and gets upset over my imperfection, she clearly seemed like someone with dismissive attachment style.

Over the summer me and our friends visited her in Greece (she's from there obviously). It was a trip that we planned before we became FWB. Something was wrong there. She constantly offended me, gave me cold shoulder, no sex, not even eye contact (shit-test?). I tried to play it cool but after 4 days when I was genuinely miserable, she asked me whats wrong and we got to talking that it's too early for holidays together. Her behaviour improved for one day, after that she acted like I was an intruder.

I know that there is a lot of emotionally tough guys here, but you must admit - If you feel anxious about something and it's eating you alive, you can start acting awkward. Because that's what happened to me. I was awkward around her friends, parents, made possibly some of the lamest jokes in my entire life. Plus accidentally blinded myself for half a day with a sunscreen. Huge turn-off (although eating entire lunch with your eyes closed is kind of an accomplishment ).

As we are both students (aged 23 and 25) we spent summer (2,5 months) apart. She wasn't contacting me very often and I didn't wanted to be seen as needy so we ended up talking on messenger once in 1-2 weeks and skyping twice.

Last Friday she came back to UK, bit early because she wanted to surprise me and talk to me about something. I sensed trouble.

She said that she wants to come back to being FWB, that I was a huge turn-off in Greece plus she never wanted any relationship. Luckily I had few beers in me so I said that I don't go for half-measures and that I don't want to be FWB, because I will end up getting attached and hurt. After an hour she replied that she's gonna give me a real chance for commitment and one month "trial period". I took it, but things feel like she's forcing herself to spend time with me.

What do you guys think of it? Am I an idiot for hoping that I can make it work again? What is law of attraction saying here? Did she just tricked me into sex?

Please share your opinions

You are conveying yourself to her as needy, desperate, too emotional.

You shouldn't have said you can't do FWB. You should have said, hey, I was thinking the same.

Don't give her any trial periods. Are you really interested in a FWB relationship? Seems like not.

Give her a stern no, then drop off the face of the Earth. And find other girls. You're giving her too much priority and she's not. She's treating you like her little slave boy or something. Man up. There's other women out there.

+1...damn it.

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Thank you for your insight. I'm definitely not interested in Fwb, however problem with staying away from her is that we are neighbours and we share backyard which means I'm going to see her regularly for the rest of the academic year.

Then avoid her as much as you can. And ignore her, too. As in, be polite, but do not engage in conversation. Pretend like she is just another stranger. Gets girls, and guys too, really riled up LOL.

It worked before, but now you are rejecting it. I'm willing to bet that if you agreed to do this whole thing again, you will find out that it will work again. I'd be willing to bet that if you agree to the FWB status and then treated her like a FB that she would be pushing for a relationship with you.

You have to realize that she's already wired to be in a relationship with you. If she's not getting the same SPAM that she used to get from you, she's going to work to get that SPAM again...sort of how you are trying to get that SPAM that you used to get again.

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Too many games. Drop her.

And then she says this...LMAO

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Right. After what he posted.

These are not too many games to you?

Either a person wants to be with you or they don't. Period. Maybe I'm black and white, but it's best to be straightforward without all this nonsense.

Its been a year and a half and its not working. Dont waste another year and a half.

I figured that I can do this any time. I'm suuuuper picky when it comes to girls I date and it's been two years since I met someone that actually got me thinking about dating. I believe that my current girlfriend (?) is worth at least trying. I do however appreciate your input.
So what are you saying is that I should say to her "I changed my mind" and then act as I would during "trial period?"
Sorry if my post was misleading. It's been 6 months actually.

They have an attraction for each other...he wants her and she's not denying him with the exception of "relationship" title. Be honest, if he gave her what she wanted and she used to have more and he no longer gives her that...won't she want it again? It's not really playing games if he gives her exactly what she asked for knowing that she'll eventually want more.

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Oh ok. You said Feb of last year so confusing.

To your comment to license plate lady (HT whatever the rest that is), thats a lie. You travelled for this chick and she shit on you when you got there. You accepted FWB at the beginning for her. Now you're accepting a bf trial for her. You cant leave her. Lol, I wish a chick would be offensive to me when I'm at her home....I would leave. Thats the thing, you're done with this chick. Sure, you can play aloof and pull back, but lets face it, she knows you're a "bitch." And I say bitch to point out, that she's got you, and she has no respect for you. She's giving you a "chance"??

Haha. Its like you're begging at her table for scraps. She's rude to you at her home, and then SHE is mad at you for being miserable. Haha. Seriously, I have no idea why youd think this chick gives a fuck abt you, or respects you. You're diving for her "chance." Guess what? Chick doesnt want commitment to you, she's not fucking you after not seeing her, and she's acting standoffish. She fucked someone else. I'll say that again. You have a chick who is looking for reasons to NOT be committed to you, yes, at least one other dick has been in her during that time.

This is exactly why I advise against getting into relationships with chicks who dont want a relationship. Youve wasted 6 months on a chick who doesnt respect you and probably fucked around on you. I'm not a mind reader and cant say for sure, but dude, if she YOUNG, and she's looking for reasons NOT the fuck you, she's fucking someone else. And she treated you like shit. I dont ever see this chick respecting you enough to be committed to you.

You're already attached, FWB won't work because the attachment itch will urge you to push for a relationship and she'll withdraw again.

A clean break. Why? 3 things: 1) you save whatever dignity and self-respect you have left, 2) you reinvest that energy into yourself to become a better person, 3) if she's ever going to come back to you it will be because you didn't throw yourself under the bus for another shot at a relationship with her.

Win win. Go through a some hurt now to get over the attachment, or a lot of prolonged hurt later by being her FWB and having most of your intimacy not met by having a purely sexual relationship with this woman you were at one point partners with.

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You're allowing her to call the relationship on her terms.

You want something more than a sexual relationship with her, she's not willing to give you that. Let her go, free your energy up for somebody who is wanting to reciprocate your needs, rather than someone who you're going to let drag you around to fulfill their agenda at the expense of shelving your needs.