I don't look at it that way. The first thing I notice is if the woman is feminine. This means long clean hair, thin body (no husky carb n' tv watchers, please...so many women these days look like linebackers in cargo pants when all they have to do is keep their carbs under 80 grams a day and not even have to work out), cheekbones, large doe-like eyes, presents herself well in public.

That's the first thing that catches my attention.

Then she has to have a job. I don't care if she's an engineer, a famous actress or a janitor. None of that fucking matters because we're all going to die, and I'd rather be with a woman who blows my mind, not her career.

The intelligence I look for is wit, and an ability to spar with me and occasionally sling some of my own sarcasm back at me. She has to read once in a while, too. she can't be into a lot of TV. My current gf doesn;t own one, or cable.

She has to be an absolute whore in the bedroom, and a lady outside. She doesn't have to have great skills, just enthusiasm and eagerness. Anything goes in the bedroom, explorations, mind expansion, and ability to speak openly about desires (much of which is up to the man to lead and open up).

All of these things wrapped up into a 9-10 (of my specific type) will pretty much own me. And yes, I realize that I still use archaic 9, 10 labeling, but I think it does matter. Life is short, and I want to wake up next to a beautiful woman, and chuckle as she looks PHENOMENAL walking away from the bed in the morning, her long hair flowing down to her great ass. Very feminine and a great start to the day.

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How are they not?
When you travel the world, you become, oh, more wordly, you learn about other cultures, you become more open minded as opposed to living in a cube, you see a different lifestyle, you question things more. Perhaps not a more intelligent person, but you become a more interesting person.

Well, Arch, that was quite the unique response from the other posters.

You're also into threesomes right? LOL.

All women and men get competitive. That's why in dating, everybody wants to put their best foot forward. Hence, the bragging, the selfies, the displays of wealth, traveling, job, etc etc etc.

The word you seem to be looking for is "wisdom" not intelligence.

Traveling gives you new experiances which leads you to new view points and allows you to grow as a person. Thats awesome but its not the same as intelligence.

And no, knowledge is not the same as intelligence either.

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RC just said above intelligence is open mindedness, knowledge pool, drive, and beliefs.
To me, intelligence is solving complex problems, such as those presented in math, chemistry, oh, how quickly you understand things, test taking, etc. How well a lawyer defends his arguments, how efficient a doctor diagnoses and treats, etc.

It depends. I don't seek them out, but if one drops in my lap I'm good depending on the quality of the third participant. Has to be a feminine woman, obviously.

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um...yeah, I cant care less about all that stuff. "oh, she is so sexy, she understands the theory of relativity"

no

I care about how sharp she is. if i tell a joke and she immediately gets it, i like her. if she says "huh? i dont get it???" i am immediately turned off.

I don't get most 'men' jokes; does that make me blunt, bartm?

For something casual? She just has to be smart enough to carry on a basic conversation and know to to maintain a high level of hygiene.

For something more serious? For me, it's always a balance of looks and intelligence. Past a certain point, the looks become irrelevant, and everything else that she has going for her will make her stand out.

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Another thread where the semantics are highly underappreciated: what definitions are we using for intelligence? Also, contrasting that to wisdom, being "sharp," knowledgeable, etc. (some words that were used by posted in the thread).

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In that case semantics are off here. If that's your definition of intelligence then how is it relevant in a romantic relationship? How does the ability to solve complex problems or otherwise being a math genius translate to attractiveness?
In fact, most highly intelligent people in that sense tend to be socially awkward.

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I am not sure what you mean by "men" jokes.
either way, it doesn't make you stupid, it just means we are not a good match. there has been times when someone made a joke and I didn't get it or didn't think it's funny. that means we dont understand each other and we are not a good match, that's all.

HT23VWY67, we can explain it to you, we just can't understand it to you.

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LOL, bartm, aren't you just cute now.

So, the whole match/mismatch is based on 1 sole criteria- does she get my jokes?

How does that translate in a romantic relationship?

Well, I was always very attracted to nerdy guys. Any more questions?