Okay so where to begin..
Initially i was going to try not to post here, but after a fair amount of searching i can't seem to find another thread similar to my issue..
Been involved with the community on and off for maybe 4 years or so.. And consider myself to be more of a natural and use PUA as more of a guideline if i was ever unsure..
Always had moderatly decent success, especially after employing more of the tactics, and started really visualising what was happening..
Anyway..
Im usually not for pair bonding or 1itus or whatever.. But i seem to be in a conundrum and would like some more expert advice...
This girl I've been seeing for the past 2 weeks now is very hot, cold.. Though she's openly admitted this and this woman is by no means stupid. I'd just recently gotten out of a long termer, and was looking for a little fun.
I knew she was attracted to me and i saw the shit plain as day at work..
One night we happen to be at the same party
And hook up later in the night after an accidental isolation.. Make outs only and after i tell her i have a misses, and that its very on the rocks..
This girl and i have a past, shes a feminist and pretty sure she's been sexually abused in the past..
We've had MASSIVE arguments about various topics and really clashed before this hooking up business..
Since then, she's come over to my place a few times (all initiated by her) and thus far have done everything but sex.
Then one morning she attempts what i could only describe as a break up saying "i think we're in two very different places with this" immediately realise its because of my long termer, im acting more BF than hookup, and freaking her out..
I pump the brakes hard.. Go on to say "we worked this out in the beginning i thought? (which we did) "i told you i wasn't after a relationship"
She gives her reasons why she thought this might be the case and asked what i wanted and i said "to fuck you, have fun with you, and learn from you.. That's it" and eventually turned it around and she was sexting by the end of the convo..
I've definitely elicted every emotion in this woman i can think of, and since the 2 weeks she's initiated conversation every day.. She literally couldn't go like 6 hours without speaking.
If i didn't reply, she'd text later and switch topic.. Or tag me in something on fb to gain my attention..
During this time, she made ALOT of more than fuck buddy comments and my friends who were over didn't even know we weren't dating!
"I haven't responded to any fuckboys today at all"
Showing evidence of shutting them down.
"Im thinking im gonna try to ease up on this so you dont feel uncomfortable"
Responses like "oh nono dont do that!"
She's been either texting or calling until 4 or 5 inn the morning everyday! For two weeks! Im fuckin exhausted!
But lately.. The responses are slowing down.. Far less sexual content and today is probably the longest She's gone without speaking to me..
My response to this withdrawal is to futher withdraw myself, matching her basically.. But that just seems to be pushing me futher away from the end goal! I would really like to fuck this feminist in the worst way! Plus she's super cool and fun to hang with!
Umm what else?.. Also worth mentioning that after i fingered her and licked her out.. She told me that no one has been down there in 18 months due to major trust issues.. Whether this is true or not? Haha can barely get one finger in so maybe?
The first time she refused to sleep.. Suggesting something had happened while she was asleep..
The second time.. Slept.. But badly.. Third, like a baby.. So trust seems to be building...
Its weird though.. Instead of asking to hang out she'll say.. "Was gonna say i needed practice with playstation, im coming over, but i fell asleep"
Or "id come over, but its kinda late"
After not responding for a while, ill usually get a cliche "i feel asleep
" meanwhike i see her online.. And this kinda behavior is making me think like an afc.. Though im pretty good a hiding that.. My friends think she's playing games... Which is possible, but why give up all but sex with little resistance? And even without sex it still has to be some form of investment?
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.. Sorry for the diatribe!
CHAT
