Hey everyone,

I'm a 20-year-old student from England with little success in getting intimate with girls. Many reasons involved, but mainly due to a long life of misunderstanding how to impress people and be interesting. Completely new to PUA but currently reading The Game after it came up on my recommended list on amazon (had bought "How to Win Friends and Influence People").

I have begun a process of multiple changes in my life and already getting some positive results from it but still have a very long way to go. The reason that I was never the most sociable even when I started university and made decent number of friends is that when I first migrated to England (9 years old), I really didn't like it and spend way too much time whining about it than anything useful. I had made myself a protective barrier where I didn't really care what anyone said which had the effect of making me a bad listener. Because of this, I always tried to impress people by talking about all of the "great stuff" I was doing, but never really congratulating on others' achievements. Having realised my mistakes now, I am trying my best to become a better person to be around with.

Just got onto Tinder and planning to use it make me more comfortable skipping boring chit-chat and being more creative with what I say. Nearly had instant success with my first convo but screwed up after she agreed to a date lol.

Been trying to improve my appearance as well - new haircut, new clothes with advise from a friend girl, more appropriate car etc.

My current main goals are: Improve my social skills, increase exposure to women, reduce the number of stupid comments (I sometimes say inappropriate dark jokes or other random crap because I get too comfortable too quickly), increase my persuasion skills and start dating / pulling in clubs.

Nice to meet you all and I hope to be able to learn a lot from everyone here. Oh and sorry for the long post.

~Crow

You're in school. Make you're social circle. You'll have to cold approach to do it though. That's how I did it

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Hey Mr A

I agree with your reply and I'm starting to be more pro-active in talking to strangers, whether thats in a club or the local supermarket. I don't think I have a massive issue with confidence in starting a convo with random girls but until recently, I came out as either boring or too needy. Boring because I played it safe and mostly did small talk until the convo dies, or too needy (usually because of too much alcohol boosting my confidence to the point of asking girls out straight on ).

This year I am planning to stop getting anywhere near tipsy let alone drunk and have started practising being spontaneous and interesting. I also need to get better at ending chats in a way they can continue later or even closing the deal, as often even if a convo starts of great, from fear of ruining it I don't take the next step.

Had another decent chat on tinder today (compared to previous chats on fb etc), she agreed to a date but I had trouble finding out her availability as the chat sort of continued onto other topics. To try and fix the situation, I decided to end the chat by saying I had to go do something (which was true anyway) and asked her when she may be free to continue over pizza (earlier on that was agreed). She replied with have a good time with the task but did not give any availability so not 100% sure what I'll try next.

I am slightly worried that even if I do get a date out, having not done one before, I won't be able to live up to some of the funny things said on chat. Talking to random girls isn't scary because there is always an easy exit out for both parties, but the idea of committing time with a stranger on a date does scare me a little. If a date does materialise, I'm planning to not take it too serious and just try my best, as I'll need the practise anyhow. Mistakes are the best teachers eh?

Not sure what this is for, but keep the toast for after I manage to accomplish something