I have been talking to this girl from work for the past two months. Since we first met their was an immediate connection between the both of us.There seemed to be an instant sexual tension, between the two of us. She would twirl her hair as she spoke to me, get lost in my eyes, yadayada. Over the course of a few weeks I built excellent rapport with her and was able to take her on a lunch date after work to our favorite breakfast place. (We work overnight). Even though we were working 16 hour shifts and had to do an 8 hour turn around, she always made time for us to go out and eat together typically spending 2 hours chatting which caused us to lose 2 hours of sleep each everyday! She made great effort to be close to me, and we are very close. Our first night out consisted of ihop. We sat in her car for an additional 30 minutes and I held her hand as I revealed my feelings to her. I kissed her hand, and she said she enjoys spending time with me however she is not looking for a relationship. However, she is open to the idea if something developes over time. I told her I understood, and jokingly asked to kiss my hand back and she playfully bit it. Fast forward 2 months I am still in the same boat. I have not had any physical affection nor has she told me she likes me back. I recently revealed some of my feelings to her that I loved her. All she said was, "much respect, but I don't feel the same way back." Things were a little awkward after a day or two after I revealed my feelings then things went back to normal. However, the week after I reveAled my feelings to her she has been texting me everyday wanting to hang out, or if I call her on the phone she wants me to stay on the phone talking to her and won't let me hang up. And while we are at work she will invite me to lunch or coffee. I've just received so many mixed signal I dnot know what to make of this girl. I'm not sure if it's the fact that I'm in a broken marriage in which we are separated pending divorce or the fact that she got out of a three year relationship 7 months ago. In the past two months I've tried making advances, as I am not one to want to be stuck in the friend zone but she usually playfully rejects me. The most affection I have gotten was me PECKING her on the cheek and not even have a peck returned, and a couple hugs. Another time, I was hugging her tightly and I kissed her neck. She seemed slightly embarrassed and she asked me to stop but at the same time I feel like she enjoyed it. Everyone at work teases the both of us because they can sense love is in the air between the two of us. But really I'm jus confused about the whole situation. It has been two months!!! I have not even made out with her at all... and to make things matters worse...I noticed her call me bro.. three different times last week. I told my friend about this but he says that I shouldn't worry about it because she may just be saying that because shes comfortable with me. Based off of this alone...what can you make out of this situation? Does she like me romantically or as a friend? Should I make it a focus to take her out for a few drinks and let her loosen up?

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This was hard to read due to the lack of paragraphs and the lack of balls. OP, one of the pieces of advice that is pretty much unanimous among the PUA community and women is that you don't verbalize your feelings. Take action. If you kiss her, she'll know that you are interested. If you invite her over to your place, she'll know you're interested. Stop looking for her to confirm her feelings towards you.

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Damn you guys actually read the topic.

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No.

I'd rather read Harry Potter Saga.

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Talking and nothing else will get you into the friend zone.


Did she put your dick in her mouth? Because if she didn't do that, she really doesn't give a shit. That's how you know when a woman is really into you.

Lunch dates are for friends.
So much talking, so little else.

No she didn't. A girl who makes an effort to be close to you unzips your pants.


Jesus christ.

Wrong move.

WTF?


To her, you are what is known as a "male orbiter". She is using you for attention.
It is a good sign that she hits you up every day. There is still a slight chance, but you have to have balls. Stop replying to her texts for a few days. When she texts again, tell her you met a cool girl and got sidetracked. Then intermittently respond to her texts with short, clipped answers "sweet", "cool", "alright". If this irritates her, good. She may set up a time and place to meet. MAKE IT YOUR HOUSE and then escalate.

Do not hit her up first. Do not buy her anything. Do not treat her to iHop. Do not buy her a drink. She is a woman using you for attention. Make it clear you are equals, or that you are the catch by your actions.

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