i think one problem that affects my game is that i believe if a girl is physically attractive, she will make my life perfect. i have no other standards, i dont qualify her because she has already passed my only test (hot? yes? done.) instead of qualifying her, i qualify myself.

i think it would help me if i could see some problems that hot girls can potentially bring to your life. can you list some problems?

for example:
what if she is naggy?
what if she is stupid?
what if she is clingy?

those are the only the problems i could come up with, i suspect there are hundreds more that i dont know. can you list some problems?

I don't understand what's your point exactly.

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Are you happy now?

Lmao. Bro you're a perfect candidate for a gold digger to get you for money

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Oh yes, I was about to say that.

If you only look at how hot she is things won't work out.... as beauty fades fairly quick with girls over 30.... so what is it you got left... her personality.... get higher standards and find the right mix, also hot girls are not for the weak... you better be mentally and physically strong as a lot of situations will come up with these type of "hot" girls that insecure guys won't be able to handle... think about other guys hitting her up daily...

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See a fucking therapist, whatever is going on in your head is not going to be saved by getting laid.

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my point is, when i see a hot girl, i think "ok, i am interested"
I have no standards, i have no questions in my mind about her. i dont wonder is she the right match for me? is she naggy? is she stupid? is she one of those self-entitled people? is she a racist?

i guess i am asking, how do i know what my standards are? what things should i watch out for when i meet a girl? what questions should i have about her in my mind? I am not asking you to tell me the questions because everybody's standards vary, I am asking how can I come up with the questions myself?

She won't like you until you get that car Bart. Don't even worry about your standards....

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Instead of looking for negatives, look for positives. You're saying you're "qualifying" a girl but really you're just disqualifying her.... stop finding reasons to not like a girl.

If you notice an unattractive personality trait and it's something you can't tolerate, proceed with caution. Some girls can make your life a living hell after you sleep with them.

i am not looking for reasons to disqualify someone. perhaps the first post wasn't phrased properly.

when I see a physically attractive girl, I think "she is perfect for me" without knowing anything about her. I don't wonder about her. I don't have any questions in my mind about her. I already know she is the perfect match for me, while literally knowing zero about her.

I am just looking for reasons that a hot look does not mean she is perfect for me. hence why I need to know some things that could be wrong with the girl, "what if she is naggy?" or "what if she is stupid?" so when I approach a girl and start talking to her, i actually want to get to know her instead of thinking every hot girl is perfect for me. knowing these problems will change my state of mind, this is really about my state of mind and not about my interaction with her. having this state of mind will naturally help me qualify someone.

i hope that's clear, perhaps someone else can word this differently, i dont know how else to say it.