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No, that's just something guys made up because they wanted to sound cool. This is a hobby. It's a series of skills that you practice and develop. If any of us were naturally good and didn't need practice we would never have looked for this forum. If you want to get good at basketball, you set aside time to practice, you don't just dribble balls spontaneously.
The fact that you describe this stuff as something you have to think about actively just makes it all sound try-hard and fake. I’m married now, back in the day I joined the PUA community for a while so I could discuss more tricky girl-related situations and offer whatever advice I had based on my successes and failures. That was 8 years ago. You’ll have to define what “naturally good” is, but I certainly wasn’t a kiss-less virgin when I read Neil Strauss’s “The Game.” I “sarged” for 3 months, then stopped thinking about it “actively”, because the systems and material mostly turned out to be unproven, made up bullshit. Every guy trying to sell you advice was saying something different. Just the fact that I was putting myself out there was increasing my success. 6 months later I met the girl I’d marry. No “active gaming” or other weird non-sense involved.
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Obviously, you don't want to NOT approach a girl because it isn't in a designated sarging hour. But to say you shouldn't actively set aside time to practice the basics is silly. That is the result of some mainstream attention to pickup portraying it as weird, and guys like you trying to make this something deeper than it is so you can turn to them and say "oh, I'm not weird, this is just my life, maaaaaaan."
The newbies need to figure out their life and get their shit together. Learn to dress/ groom right, get/stay in shape, then grow a pair and say “hi” to girls that they like in any and all situations where there are girls to say “hi” to. They need to go to places that they enjoy going to, then talk to women there. That means if they hate nightclubs (discotheques) – they should not go there and instead go to places that they like (maybe a cocktail bar or lounge). If they drink coffee, talk to girls at coffee shops. If they take the subway to work, talk to girls on the subway while waiting for a train. Planning days around meeting girls is pathetic.
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I was wondering how many hours do you spend on average per week actually putting your PUA skills to use? Are you going out just to game? Gaming holistically? Are you actually practicing or what's the deal? Where should a beginner start?

OP – see my reply to DJ_Z as it is also directed at you.