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But what are you afraid of for him? He's 19. Probably doesnt have a good enough income to be screwed over. If he works, and she works too, they get divorced in a 5 years, probably not gonna get taken. If she doesnt work and he does, they divorce in 5 years, I'm sure she would have supported him throughout that time. Even then the court will typically give her minimal spousal support for a period of time until she finishes school or something. The guys are who are getting screwed are the guys who have been in long marriages where the wife supported him or can prove she gave up work for the benefit of the family.
Like you, you may work and meet a chick who works, get married and just live a normal life no kids. But its not like that in most cases. Husband and wives come together, decide well he makes more money so he'll provide while she takes a less demanding job to take care of the kids. If they divorce, the court attempts to compensate her for her lost career time. If you and your wife work, and have kids, court is gonna try split assets, which since you both worked should come out fairly.
What scenario are you envisioning where a woman takes half of your money and does not deserve it?
You're assuming my cousin will always be poor. If he starts making money at some point and he has no prenup, he will be at risk just like those who are already making money and getting married with no prenup.
And you are banking on the women never changing. 5 years? A woman can change in 5 years. Having a long-lasting great marriage based on picking a “great woman” assumes that women don’t ever change. It assumes that five or ten years from now she won’t start acting like almost every other woman in western society starts acting once married. The woman you marry today is not the same woman you will be married to years down the road
I don't believe in marriage anyway, if told my woman that she had to pay me 400 dollars a month for the next five years and if you don't you will go to prison, she will never agree to that. So why should men ? The reason I started this thread is to see the mentality of those who still believe in marriage. I want to see if they will at least sign a prenup if they go down that route. Saying I am different than all those other guys. I can make it work is an emotional response than a logical response. It's a hope. You can control your actions, you can't control the actions of your spouse.
And once again, 70% of the divorces are initiated by the women. Rarely are divorces mutual. And check out the infidelity rates while youre at it. There are guys out there who are raising another man's child who was a product of infidelity and they don't even know it. Once they get divorced, they are going to pay child support for that
https://www.myfloridalaw.com/child-supp ... he-father/
For example this is an excerpt from this website
The state of Florida does not care if you are the real father or not. The courts do not care if you are the real father or not. No one in the legal community cares either. The law is quite clear on who gets the priority and who receives the benefit of doubt in these types of situations. That person is the child. The only thing current laws care about is that children receive proper financial support. All the emotion and fairness of the situation is completely stripped out in favor of that one concept. And it is entirely possible that child support will continue on for many years even if there is a universal understanding you are not the real rather.
Men are not destined to win in this legal system.
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