Hello guys, I have in the past read pua and find it fascinating. Unfortunately I have never disciplined my self and actually practiced it past a few steps.
With this said I would like to tell u my story please. I met a beautiful girl about 2 months ago. I completely fell in love with her. We went on several dates and had sex a few times. When I met her I knew she was a very troubled person. She was constantly in and out jail. I would ask her what for and she would always say for petty shit. I loved her so much I didnt care. She would ask me for money every time we met and since I make decent money I didnt think twice about it. She was always very fishy and I knew she lied alot to me. I know I am the biggest fucking chump in the entire fucking universe for falling for her but I swear she was just so fucking beautiful I wouldnt allow my self to see past all the bullshit.
Well the last time we met she asked me for money before we even did anything. I asked what for? She owes money to a friend she says. I give her money and she says shell be right back. I get a text message saying this is her bf and I am no longer allowed to talk to her. As u can imagine my life dropped. I felt so much confusion, anger, and pain. But suddenly it all made sense.
I went to the back of my car and grabbed a crow bar and smashed her car window in.
Her bf or pimp, whatever u want to call him, and another guy comes out with a knife trying to fight me.
I have never in my life been one to back down from a fight in my life. But I was scared and tired from a long long days work. I didnt know what to do. I was in a place I had never been before. I didnt know who else was gonna come out.
I had no choice but to run. He takes off with my car. I call the cops. Cops come and ask what happened. I explain. Turns out he parks my car down the street. They take my cell and a credit card. I just want to go home at this point so I leave it as is and just leave.
I lost my manhood that night.
Now I am living in so much pain and anger I dont want to live anymore. I wish I could hate her but I still love her so much.
Guys please help me!!! What do I do! How do I get over this situation?
I have so much going for my self, good job, good money, new car, fairly good looking yet my whole life is in turmoil beacause of this pos person. Help me please!!!

One of the worst posts in a while. You are the problem and not her. Why were you giving her money? Was it because you were trying to prove yourself to her? You were being taken advantage of because you are a sucker and until you see her for who she really is and like yourself better than you like her, you'll continue to be a sucker.

How old are you? What do you do for a living?

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#1. Go get tested.
#2. You can only go up from here.

Lesson learned - Hot girls can be scummy pieces of shit just like anyone else.

They can use that ass, for good, or evil.

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Firstly, you don't love her. Because you don't really know the real her.

You love the ideological version of her you created in your head.

That is NOT her.

DO NOT listen to people telling you what you did wrong. You already know exactly what you did wrong. That much is obvious now.

Now is about moving forward & one day reflecting on this dark time. In order learn & draw positives from a shitty situation.

Everyone in life has shit at some point. Bereavement, debt, trouble brought to your doorstep, vouching for the wrong person, depression. It doesn't matter what it is. Everyone gets it in some way, shape or form at some point.

What separates great athletes from regular athletes, isn't the fact that they win. It's how they deal with LOSS.

What do they do?

Do they dwell on what's happened?
Do they put themselves down?
Do they perpetuate Negativity?
Do they buy into the bullshit frame that has just presented itself?

NO

Now it's time for removing yourself from this bullshit. This is not about her now, it's not about them either. Your better than this. The cream always rises to the top & away from the shit at the bottom. This was a harsh life lesson, one that you just might have needed.

Everytime you feel like you need to re-involve yourself in this ridiculous situation. Your going to do 2 things:

1 - "Self Talk"
This means mentally challenging yourself with compelling arguments to not fall back into this circle of Negativity. Like reflexes, you do this instantly & everytime.

2 - "Perspective Taking"
Think about your close family & friends. Put yourself in their shoes. How would they feel knowing you having become involved so deep in this situation. How would they feel if they thought you couldn't get out of this, that you couldn't control yourself?

Don't isolate yourself!

Just think about the benefits of removing yourself from this situation & moving forward positively. Imagine how that will feel to have done that 2 years down the line. And how great your life might look as a result.

This might not be what you want to hear. But there is no amazing answer. No quick fix. No magic words.

As for these misplaced feelings of "love" you speak of. Only time & getting on with your own life will heal that my friend.

And when you get to where your going away from all this bullshit, I personally promise you.
You'll be twice the man you ever was before!


Peace

I completely concur on the above, you are the one at fault. You are responsible for what happens to you, and therefore you must take responsibility for it and act accordingly. There are some tough times ahead of you, and you'll want to give up more than once. But if you truly wish to snap out of it, you will get through this. Keep believing in yourself.

As for the perspective talk, it's and incredible exercise that really gives you a fresh perspective on things. Personally I do it by thinking what I would think and do if my son was in the exact same situation (or my brother or father). Choose whatever works best for you.

Now pick yourself up and go forward. Over time things will get easier.

1.- when you will meet this "hot girl", punch her in the face for me... thanks
2.- when someone has knife, put your hands behind your back and be agressive (its advice from psychology).
3.- meet other girls.. every girl on this fucking planet will be better than this whore.

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Thank you guys all so much. Especially Silv3r for the sound advice. I feel much better already. She called me yesterday and tried to play the whole thing off.
My God I cant beleive people as evil as her exist. Told her to fuck off.
I am 27 next month and I am a car salesman.

Welcome to the forum:

Heres a few solid links to get you started:

pua-lounge/topic190620.html

posting.php?mode=reply&f=1&t=197547

approaching-and-opening/topic190187.html

Let me know if you have any questions.

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