Hey gents!

So quick run down where I'm at. Been single for roughly 6 months now, took first couple months to work on me, update wardrobe, get health in check etc before I jumped back into the dating game.

Been having some reasonable success, had half dozen dates that have always ended up positive. Couple still texting for hookups, and are pretty happy about the freedom and being non exclusive.

Now, in the middle of it all there was this one girl, an absolutely beautiful girl that I had crushed on for a long time. But was involved so never escalated anything at the time. So I went to her work and chatted her up to feel out where she was, find out if she was single. Got her number made plans and took her out. Come to find out that she was very religious, which was cool with me even though I'm not.

Had an awesome date, super funny witty sharp girl. One that could bust your balls in good humor and keep you on your toes. Winding down our evening sitting in a park, in come stomping my ex on a rampage. Screaming at me, up in her face scaring the crap out of her. Perfect date, ended horribly. Tried to get her out again after that, wasn't happening in no way. So I said screw it, and on to the next. Fast forward about 3 weeks, walked into her work and she stood there smiling saying I was just thinking about you. Now she is gaming me, and wants to go out again. Out we go again, this time awesome with no ex interference. The girl is super comfortable with me, escalate playfully end the date with a kiss. Now I'm hooked on this girl, because she is a genuine good girl. Out on the third date, I find out she has a semi life threatening illness, but takes very good care of her health to keep it in check.

Test time.....where I'm confused looking for advice on where to go next.
Now I'm in push the boundaries mode with her, escalating and heavy make out to see how far I can get. Then baam, she tells me how much she likes me, and loves my cute texts and how much fun she has being with me. But doesn't feel like she can get involved with me because what I do for a living. (I am a commercial craft brewer) That she feels its against her faith, and she knows I am very passionate about what I do.

Now that I've had a couple days to evaluate myself and how I handled it, which I think I did ok and not putting pressure on her.
I'm thinking that she is insecure about her health, with fear of getting involved. As its a very real possibility that she could be hospitalized, and I understand that.

So is she testing me to see if I will continue to per-sue her? Is she grasping for straw, and trying to talk herself out of her feelings even though she really likes me? At the moment I'm taking a step back for a bit, let her develop some feelings and evaluate them for herself. Obviously pulling back has worked with her once. But on the other hand I just want to go back and call her out on it for the BS is appears to be.

Sorry for such a long winded post, but I welcome any input. I do really like this girl, she does appear to be a diamond in a coal mine.

I'm not understanding why you are second guessing what she explained her reasoning. That's a pretty specific complaint about you and what you do and you want to change it into insecurities about herself and I'm guessing it's because you want to show her that you are the guy who can be there for her.

No, I doubt that she is testing you because that being a test would be absurd. You have a lifestyle that doesn't match up with her morals. That coupled with a life threatening health issue for a very religious girl probably amplifies the point about your lifestyle.

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She's not that special as you might believe. This one seems like a burden and too much of a hassle. Skip this one.

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Its always the super religious ones.

Why man? You are aware that your attraction from this girl stems largely from the challenge she presents you with right? Once you break down the walls and all that is left is the reality; do you honestly think that as an attractive man that has choice with women you'll be interested in her?

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All good points, thats why I am stepping back. I am so used to crazy drunk girls in my life, she was just a lot more real to chill with, and way more intelligent conversation. But she is still hanging on, seems like she is DTF. Always one that kind of gets you thinking.

Where do you find ONLY crazy drunk girls?

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5 AM walking home from mine, carrying her shoes, with a look of shame on her face.

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Should've read more often.

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