Lol. To play devil's advocate... If you're going to spend your whole life together then a drunk kiss is not a big deal.

So can you state why you didn't propose? I'm not even agreeing with where younglady is going with her question but now it seems like something is there.

Because it's not something that's been on our minds it's a non-issue, we're both sensible enough to know getting married in your 20s is pretty stupid, I don't see the need to rush in to it and she agrees.

Comparing a breach of trust to the amount of time in the relationship is not the same thing so I can't agree with you having a valid point there.

The chances of me proposing now have certainly dropped now too haha...

they probably fucked, but she doesnt want to look too bad

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Sounds like this isn't the first time she cheated man.

You appear desperate, needy, and you're saying you're currently dependent on her financially. Anythings possible, but thats not really the recipe for success.

Hows the sex btw? Is it any good? Or just regular? For her I'm talking about.

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If you find it hard to trust her then there is probably nothing you could do about things now.

Added to the fact that she couldn't come clean - she conveniently (lied) "forgot" because she was "drunk" ...sounds like a lot of excuses and points to some serious flaws in her character that indicate it may simply not be worth it to pursue a relationship.

Now...if she HAD come clean, and if you were confident that it was a one time thing, and had a solid relationship beforehand, then I could actually see things working out IF IT WAS JUST A KISS.

Good challenge !!
Author, Your value is low. Without active actions this relationship will over soon. "To discuss the problem" never helps, speaking does only worse. The issue is to increase your relationship value. It is time to study "Push Pull" and "Mirror Behaviour". If you eat this shit (her kiss), she will continue to do that without any fear.
Personally, I would perform LJBF forestall and dive into total ignore till her mega-PULL. Currently she believes you are an enchained dog and switches on the rest of candidates. She should understand that it is easy to lose you.
I am sure if you forgive her now, in a few months (max 6) you will be LJBF-ed. Do it first. Then make a TI ("total irnor" - any contact), till she call 26+n^2 times, cry and whine about mistake. During TI walk in the FIELD and study to by attractive, also for reducing her value in you head. Sometimes there is only one way to save girl`s love - break up with her.

Also think, why she loss the interest of you ?, Have you changed in a good course?, Are you popular among women?, Does she has a girl-concurrent?, Are you looks good?, speak good?, are you perspective businessman?. Give the reason why she should fucks exactly with you?. At the present time she has big doubts that you are the best.

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Once the trust is gone I'd strongly consider hanging it up.

Trust is at the very foundation of a healthy relationship. Once its breached its very hard to get back, and in fact requires more work for the person who was cheated on because they're the ones who have to stick their neck out in giving that person another chance.

You're going to go quite a while questioning where she's at, with whom etc, might end up interrogating her. No way to have any sort of a healthy relationship. Ask yourself if its worth or simply cutting your losses and finding someone who will treat you the way you deserve.

All of us can make mistakes and deserve the 2d chance. If you love her, just forgive her. This has some sense only if you see that you still have connection. There is a good saying: Don't choose the partner you can live with, choose the one you can't live without!If you feel the same and don't want the other one, forget about this incident and try to build your relations further.

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i forgive and shouldn't,we went on,couldn't stand each other,broke up,so i"m for the NO

Unless they agreed to have open relationship you never forgive shit like this.

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