Hey guys, gonna keep this real short

I have been togheter with my girlfriend for 7 months now, and during that time she has had a guy friend. I have been certain he was in love with my girl all the time, but she said he wasnt.

Yesterday my girl told me that this guy confessed his love for her...and this was about 2-3 months ago. So she lies/hided this from me and im really upset about that. She said The reason was that she did not know how to handle it and was afraid to lose hem as a friend.

Im glad she came to me and told me about it, but im angry that she lied about it for a while (and hanging out with him during that time)
Now she is upset cause she knows that their friendship has to end

How should i handle this?
Should i support and comfort my girl or be upset with her?

Thanks

interesting predicament pal

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What do you mean?

Sounds like a highschool girl: I'll go and act according to what my friends believe is best.

A few questions: how would you have reacted in her shoes? Which one do you think would help the situation: supporting her, or being upset? Do you trust her? If so, did you tell her that you're glad she told you about it, and that you're upset she waited 2-3 months to do so?

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If you've no reason to distrust her, give her the benefit of the doubt.

Why be divisive when you can use the opportunity to connect more closely to your partner? You feel a bit insecure that she'd maintained a friendship with him for several months after, which is perfectly understandable. However, she's telling you this now, and if she's earned your trust before I don't see how this should change matters. I say let it slide and comfort her for her 'loss'; he's out of the picture now anyway, which is what you'd wanted.

Thanks for the input guys. Gonna try to use The situation to my own benefit like you said

whats that even mean?

Hmm....Thought about this one for a while...my 2 cents:

Just be honest, ie she lied and hid something and you're upset about that. Personally, if it were me, I wont be upset if it happened like this: he told her 3 months ago, she dealt with it on her own for 3 months and didnt tell me. To me, I dont need to know what some guy tells my gf, my concern is how she handles it. If she handled it properly and didnt tell me, it never came up in conversation and she didnt lie or hide it if asked. Cool. Its like, I dont need to know if my gf realized she put on 5 pounds. If however, your gf handled it poorly, ie, acted like nothing was wrong, still hung out with the guy AFTER he confessed, when it came up in conversation with me she lied about it then, to me its a red flag that she handles situations like that. I wont be upset some guy told her he loved her 2-3 months ago, I'd be upset for 2-3 months she lied about it (if she did). That would weaken the trust I have for her if she has shown she lies like that. Now I dont know your situation, maybe your gf just didnt tell you what some guy told her and she didnt lie..she just handled it on her own, or maybe she lied to you for 2-3 months as the topic kept coming up.

If you're upset, act upset. If you're not then dont. 7 months in and you're not confident in yourself enough to act the way you feel. I'm not saying to start conflict, just that if she ACTUALLY broke your trust, dont be afraid to address it.

No worries here Bro, he cemented himself into the friend zone forever. You could likely let her take weekend trips with her and this loser would never see that pussy.

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Probably some truth to this.

With the respect to the question of the topic:
I would try do not pay attention for the challenge. It can be noticed from Your intro, that You are afraid of competition with another guys and Your interest in her story, shows this fear. It is dangerous for balance of significance (BS, or how do you call it here). Do not lose Your visible self-confidence. I would recommend the behaviour of Mickey Rourke in "9 and 1/2 week" (see 24-th minute).

Another deal, that girl likes to have a puppy (spare guys) and if she told about that only after 3 month, possibly there was something more that you now. As minimum: he told her many times about his feelings and she has been masturbating his mind for all this time. And now You involved in her game also. She try to hold him near and by mean of this increase her significance for you:"look darling, I'm so demanded among men". As for me, she fools You both, unconsciously, of course, it is woman nature.

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