ME:
I feel like we should cxl thentrio we nee to talkk. Do you feel like we are growing closer towards each other on these dates or are we just having fun?

HER:
Well having fun would be growing closers BUT you take everything way too seriously so idk. I guess we have different definitions of getting closer. But we should cancel because since what you said when on pain meds and then the breakdown you had the other day... I don't think I'm going to get any closer honestly. I've done some reflecting on it and I will not put myself through that.
I've resolved many an issue within myself in these past years and I refuse to be with someone who hasn't done the same. Sounds mean but trust me on this. Nothing good is going to come of that.


I first critisized her for saying that she is prettier than other girls all the time."

Then when on TDY at another base I tried to make her jealous by saying all the numbers I got butt didn't do anything with.

Then got too drunk and acted like an emotional wreck talking about how I was beat as a kid and that freaked her out because she says we're both damaged and that's toxic and our last date she wouldn't even hold my hand.

Shes 23yr old puero rican whos last husband was a antisocial jerk with drepssions and anger issues and her last BF cheated on her so shes afraid ill be like those guys.weve been dating 1.5 months and havent banged in a month and she has a super high sex drive.

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Its my first relationship and Im totally lost, I'm learning quickly as I go, I try now never critisize and always be nice. I text too often since im suoer talktaive amd extroverted amd shes the opposite so Im giving her some space for a few days.

Also remember you're just hearing all the bad you never heard how I was kind to her almost every single second of every day because I'm genuinely a compassionate caring person

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I implied you were a bad boyfriend not a bad person.
What did you not like about her doing that?
What did you think purposely trying to make her jealous would accomplish? A relationship is not a powerstruggle. Not a healthy relationship that is.
I don't get that. Why would you date someone that's already one marriage down by 23?

Perhaps you should focus on getting your own shit together OP. She's right about both of you being seemingly toxic.

Also why no sex for 1 month?

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She went on another date with me it was nice but she didnt let me touch her or hold her hand but the end when I dropped her off I pretended like I wasn't going to hug her and she made a sad face so i hugged her and she gave me a big smile so maybe there is hope.

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You've been friend-zoned and you don't even know it.

Somewhere along the line, she stopped seeing you as a sexual person.

Act like a man, like a leader, and like a sexual being completely congruent with your intentions.

She's bored.

I'd send this text during the middle of her work day:

"I'm going to slap your face with my hard dick later. Have a nice day".

Spontaneous. She'd never see it coming and it sexualizes you again. And if it fails, fuck it. At least it's funny. Go down swinging man, not like a noodle.

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That's a bullshit reason, IMHO.

That's a nice way of saying "I'm not attracted to you as much as I was before".

Why? Because you acted like the woman, not the man. Getting drunk and being an emotional wreck is an attraction killer that sometimes can never be repaired. To survive that, you need to:

1. Be dating a 1-7
2. You give her a lot of orgasms
3. You have a strong emotional bond


If none of the above, it's over.

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Fuck it. I'm done.

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I would seriously bet all the money I have that she's already been banging other dudes.

Why do I feel like this is a complete troll post..

Who's paying for the dates?

Have you guys made out?

And is this girl actually your girlfriend?

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Oh, do not worry, that is common women`s recommendation for ex BF.
She: "Haney, open your mouth, the shit is coming!!"

Divorced girl for first relationship?

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To answer the many questions asked:

I was in DC for 2 weeks so that accounts for half of the month of no sex, then the day I came back she was not receptive to my touch because I bragged about getting other girls in DC but not doing anything thinking this woulf make her clingy/jealous. (Never doing that again). This was the main reason we grew apart because she had just been cheated on and the drinking was just the last straw.

I knew I wasn't going to marry this chick from day one butt I really needed to stop hooking up and attempt a relationship.

She was faithful because I got two of my friends who are great with women to try and pick her up and she turned them down.

We arent together and I'm trying to see other people but I hope by showing all the amazing adventures that I will be going on soon and pics of me with friends and other girls will have her seeing me in a different light and maybe we can try this again.

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