| Hello Daygamers,
Thought I share some infield action from Tuesday.
I approach roughly 6 or 7 girls. Can't remember exactly.
One of the first girls I saw was russian waitress at a small coffee/fresh juice place in the middle of the mall close to where the SPAM I often use is located.
I had approached her before and this day I didn't even want to approach. The first time was about 2 months ago. She stood there with no customers except (as she stated after my opener and a compliment) her Boss who was talking to the second waitress.
If I remember correctly I did open with something like 'Hi....I don't want any coffee or juice. This is very direct but I just passed you and I thought you are cute. I would have been angry with myself if I had just walked by too scared to say hello'.
She reacted mildly interested but not very enthusiastic. I didnt get the best vibe. Not totally warped either but there was no flow, smiles and instantly flirty/shy/laughing connection which you know from yes-girls.
In the end I said we should go drink a coffee some time. She didnt really respond to that. As if she wasnt convinced. So I said 'listen. We exchange numbers and some time next week I send you a text and invite you out. And if you decide you are not interested then thats ok'.
I pulled out my phone and she turns a little bit, indicates her Boss and says 'my Boss is right there I cant give you my number now'.
Not sure what I said after that but I smiled, said she should take it as a compliment (I was positive the Boss reason was an excuse) and ejected.
Since I pass her tiny-cafee often I saw her maybe a week later. She was alone and I dont even know why exactly I approached because I was convinced she wasnt interested. I like exposing myself to scenarios at the edges of my comfortzone sometimes. I did that when I started with Daygame. Even though basically everything was out of my comfortzone back then.
Talking to a girl who rejected me was a little awkward but I thought it was a good excercise. That thought popped into my head when I saw her. It also trains me to handle rejection and dont let it fluster me. So I didnt even want to approach in the conventional sense. All I wanted was to expose myself and so I said something generic.
I walked up to her, smiled and said 'Dont worry, Im not here to flirt with you again. I can see that you are not German or at least not fully. If I had to guess I would say you are from East Europe.
'Im Russian' she said with neither a lot of enthusiasm nor completly desinterested.
I got the same vibe like last time and ejected 10 seconds later with a smile and a 'have a good day'.
In the following weeks I saw her a few times. She sometimes looked at me - in that non-enthusiastic way she always does or maybe thats just her nature - and I sometimes looked at her while passing. I never kept longer eye contact though and we never looked at each other directly.
After that I approach another waitress in the same cafee. I thought the Russian woman had her day off. I was blown off by the other girl and right when I was about to eject the Russian girl comes from her break. I smiled and waved to the Russian girl, said bye or something else to the one I had approached and left.
This Tuesday I wanted to do some Daygame and had just bought some new nice pants (I like to wear chick suit pants but not a complete suit, just the pants, good shoes and whie long sleeve shirt) and a shirt. So I felt good and it was a semi sunny, mild day. I went to the SPAM and then passed the cafee. I saw her and there were two other women who were customers or just friends talking to the Russian waitress.
I walked passed, smiled, and while walking I said 'You havent aged a day. Still very pretty'.
She responded differently than before which is why I stopped.
She smiled more and said thank you or something along the lines.
I appraoch the cafee, look at her two friends (one of them was gorgeous), smile and say 'she broke my heart two months ago and rejected me'.
'That was no rejection', the Russian girl said.
I briefly look at her in surprise and then look at the two other girls again and say 'of course it was a rejection. I invited her out, asked for her number and she said no'.
'If I reject a guy I say 'piss off''
I move a little closer to her with a look of surprise and fake-shock on my face 'and here I thought you are a seet, loving, kind woman'.
The two other girls had given me this 'who is this guy' look which wasnt entirely hostile but not necessarily friendly either.
At this point they began to smile.
'I couldnt give you my number in front of my Boss'.
'Cmon....that was an excuse' I shake my head, shrug and say to the two other women 'she cant even admit she rejected me'.
'That was no rejection' she repeats.
'In that case you should give me your number now' I say as if its a fact.
'No....' she says, shakes her head and looks down while smiling.
'Now you see first hand. Women are weird. Nobody will ever understand them...' I tell the two girls in fake frustration.
They still smile and the Russian girl says 'I dont give out my number just like that. Men have to be Gentlemen. They have to invest and try harder. I dont want no man that just gives up like that'.
I laugh and say 'Awww....isnt that sweet. You want me to ask over and over again. I understand'.
I shake my head, smile and leave with a 'maybe I say hi next week maybe not' in the general direction of the cafee.
Okay.
That was the first approach of the day. Still not sure if she was just having fun with her friends or trying to pull my leg or communicating that she really hadnt me blown out completly.
No idea. The vibe was a lot better this time though. She was smiling and we had fun talking about my first approach and her Boss and all that.
She definitely knows me a little better now.
I wont start begging though. Ill give her one or two compliments without really reopening her when I pass her cafee the next times.
Not because I feel awkward to re-open or because Im scared to be blown out again or any of that. Couldnt care less about those things.
Ill do that so she sees Im not desperate and I can just enjoy giving a passing compliment or a tiny convo like 'hello beautiful. Having fun?'
If she begins to smile more and/or gives me more/stronger IOIs I might invest more. Not before though.
Id rather stay the flirty guy who showed her he is brave enough to approach, has no trouble reopening or admitting he was rejected by her publicly to then not instantly approach over and over again just because she says it wasnt a rejection.
Whatever. Thought I share my thoughts about that. Maybe some of you guys would have done it differently.
The set that day was in another part of the city. I passed a book store and there was a woman with long dark hair in front of me. I waited if she would turn her head a little so I could see her face.
Her body wasnt great but not bad either. She had a feminie body and the ass wasnt bad.
When she turned I saw two sparkling, dark and beautiful eyes which immediately captivated me.
I stopped her and opened with:
'Excuse me.
Dont panic....ehm.....you know how to get to the city center?'
She begins to explin, I laugh a little to myself, act mildly embarassed and explain 'okay, shit....listen. I passed you and I thought you are cute. I tried to think of what to say but my mind went blanc and all I could come up with was to ask for directions'.
She laughs and says 'haha....hey that's really sweet but sadly....'
'Nonono....you do not have a husband...' she shakes her head with an apologetic smile '...and you do NOT have a boyfriend' she still smiles apologetic and nods.
'Well, you are very pretty and you like to laugh I like that'
'Thank you' she says smiling 'but it was really nice how you complimented me.
We exchange a few more words and the vibe was fantastic. We both had a good time and Im sure she felt good about getting such a compliment.
I felt good about that approach and walked some more to get a coffee to go.
Maybe 10 mins later I saw another little younger woman also with black hair in a shop.
I had almost passed the shop but moved back and went over.
'Hi....you are not working here are you?'
'No, sadly I dont' she says politely as if she is sorry that she cant help me.
'Well, im no customer either. This is very random but I just passed the shop. I saw you and I thought you look nice. And if I had just gone home without at least saying hello I would have been angry with myself'.
I cant remember what exactly she said but I remember the way she reacted. She smiled, was surprised but the vibe was good. She liked it I think.
Didnt want to give me her number though and I could only give her mine.
I made a few jokes and in the end she said 'You are funny. I like that in guys. Ill go on vaction for two weeks though'.
She didnt say that she would call me after two weeks but the last two sentences sounded as if she wasnt completly desinterested.
Dont know. I would say every 10th girl I give my number actually texts. 90 % dont though so I dont really expect her to text.
The approach was good though. We smiled a lot, I gave her longer eye contact when I made the compliments and I could see that there was a very flirty vibe. At least that was my impression. But you never know 100 % with women haha.
I did some more sets but honestly cant remember how and when. Even though it was only two days ago.
The last set I do remember though and maybe that last set is the reason I forgot about the other 2 - 3 sets.
I was in another pretty big store on the first or second level.
I was still on the escalator going up.
Ouf of the corner of my eye I saw a women going up the other escaltor on my left. She was a few meters above me already and I briefly saw long blond and curly hair and a nice/slim body.
I briefly thought 'nah....dont approach' and realized I was about to find an excuse.
But something told me she could be gorgeous. I hadnt seen her face but the hair and body and style alone looked attractive already. I walked two meters, realized Im trying to come up with excuses and turned around. Jogged up the escalator behind you and opened.
'Sorry....do you speak English?'
She was Turkish which I never expecetd. Blond hair, blue eyes. Not pale but her skin tone looked more european as well. Though Turkish ppl arent necessarily a lot darker.
Im half turkish-german. I dont speak Turkish though. Didnt grow up bilingual sadly. I understand a tiny bit and can say a few things. Nowhere near enough to have a real conversation though.
I speak English very fluently though. I studied English and spent 2+ years in English speaking countries.
I like speaking English even more than speaking German. English just sounds better. Compliments sound better. The sound of the language sounds smoother, softer. Dont know. But I immediatly liked that I could open in English.
I told her that I saw her go up the escalator and saw her long curly hair which caught my attention.
'And you have a very pretty smile too' I added when she realized why I approached her.
The mood was instantly flirty and great.
She reacted like a yes-girl. Kind, friendly, smiling woman. I dont wanne talk so bad about the standard German lady but we do have a number of ice princesses here. In other countries I met more women with her vibe.
Open, friendly, not at all shocked that a guy approaches them in the middle of the day. Which will happen a lot more often here in Germany. Specially the north where I live. Daygame definitely works here but it is harder than in lets say the US, the Caribbean or Turkey, or London and other cities/countries.
In Germany you will come across women who are very surprised and confused when you approach them. Naturally, some simply arent interested but a moderate percentage of those reactions come from the generally very passive vibe in germany.
Men do not approach in the daytime.
Almost never. This is not the norm here.
Guys game in their scs or in Clubs or on partys or their jobs/hobbys which is also included in the sc basically.
She reacted very positively. Agreed to meet me the next day, gave me her number and we met yesterday at 8 in the city.
And fuck....she is one gorgeous woman. 30 years old which I still cant believe even though she showed me her passport. She looks like 22 or 25 tops thats no joke. Smooth skin, fantastic smile, beautiful eyes, pretty little nose.
We went to a bar and after a bit of smiling and talking I told her I had to tell her a secret.
I leaned closer, pulled her hair from her ear as if I wanted to whisper something and gave her a soft kiss on the neck. She didnt move and looked at me with big smiling eyes. She liked it and she smelled so fucking good.
Smelling her like that and feeling her skin was awesome.
We kissed some more and I kissed her lips too. She was a little hesitant at first but closed her eyes when I stood behind her later, hugged her from behind and kissed her neck from the side. I saw she smiled and closed her eyes for a second.
Shit. Shes so hot that I actually felt nervous and my heart beating.
Sadly she goes back to Turkey but moves to Germany in two months. She comes back to Germany in two weeks though for four days to find an apartment and we agreed to meet when shes here in two weeks.
I wanne keep texting to a minimum. We texted 2 times today and laughed about a few insiders.
I also said that I liked kissing her a lot.
She said she liked the way I kissed her neck.
Well. Wish me luck guys. Thats the prettiest girl I dated this year.
On my personal scale, including her looks, body and especially her very inocent, authentic smile, her skin, the way she smiles and talks......Id give her a 15.
For me personally shes a 15. Super hot and cute and also a sweet personality.
Ill update here if and when when have a second date and how things develop.
Daygame is great.
Dont let rejection or rejection streaks discourage you.
I wasnt particularly successful yet either this year. I started Daygaming again in May.
Approached maybe 50 - 70 girls so far and up until now in 2016 after I had dated a really hot black girl from July 2015 to end of March 2016.
Then started Daygaming again. So far only got like 8 numbers, gave my number to maybe 15 girls, had 5 dates and a few kiss closes.
Its a lot of fun though and you get more experienced and if you just keep going you will come across yes girls.
Dont look at your stats though. even if you get 100, 200 or 300 blow outs just keep going. Change your style, let a woman help you with a good look, get a nice hair style, do sports and try all kinds of different styles. Try different openers and in general openers that suit your personality.
I like to joke a lot and I enjoy giving compliments and I like to smile and laugh a lot.
So often times thats the vibe I open with.
If you are more of a serious person then dont try to be funny or vice versa.
Good luck.
Oh and if any of you have improvements or ideas or criticism then please do share. That would be much appreciated.
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