You have to hold people accountable for their actions though. If she feels like she can walk all over him - then she definitely will

He's clearly annoyed/pissed by her erratic behavior and needs to let it be known

Always take the reigns and go from there. Don't just automatically accept every apology

A woman being erratic...you don't say! Putting drama on top of more drama isn't the way to go.

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You hold people accountable by setting boundaries. Saying "fuck you cuz you are bitch bla bla bla. Blame her, make herself feel guilty and fuck her again" is mere childishness.

Are you sure you are reading the same post as everyone else? I didn't read anything about her showing erratic behavior or her apologizing to him. In fact, she told him to take the lead and he responded in a childish manner and said that she was playing games.

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Your issue here from my point of view is your frame control, you are being somewhat inconsiderate of how she is feeling. She was feeling insecure about you being with other girls after she fucked you, I think you could have been a bit less harsh in your response while still being honest and tried to comfort her a bit instead.

You are basically setting the tone for anger and spite, the threads seem to be butthurt and snappy. Which in return will get you responses along the same lines, when you have control of the frame, you will get a mirror of what emotional context you are communicating under.

It's up to you to stay chill and calm her down, not by trying to be domineering in conversation and trying to tell her to, but by leading and being chill first and waiting for her to catch up to your leadership.

If you treat her like a girlfriend, she's going to expect a boyfriend, if you treat her like she's just another piece of tail you want to smash and dash, she will act like it. If you treat her like you like her but don't have issues with her being with other guys and just want to see her but don't want to be exclusive and are genuinely open about any of these these expectations, you can expect she will react as if you are acting this way. Some girls only want monogomy, so you may risk filtering them out over being non exclusive.

It seems though what you are more or less sub communicating to this girl is that she is nothing to you but a fuck. Being needy however is likely not to remedy this situation, so trying to go bi-polar on her telling her how much you care after you SHOWED her how little you care and that's the impression she has, will likely just confuse her and frustrate her, rather than fix her being butthurt. If you're trying to express indifference, that's alright, but if you're feeling needy trying to fake it, do not tote that line so hard that you are borderline standoffish and cold or you will feel the same from her in return.

In my opinion, you should give her some space for a bit, talk to her again, say you were in a bad mood last time you talked and would like to take her out again because you did enjoy your time out with her. As soon as you see that issue is addressed, cut that thread and start a new thread, don't let her drag you into a fight, don't get butthurt or angry or snappy or scared/anxious, keep it cool. If she starts taking little cheap shots at you just endure them, if it gets too much just be like, look I'm doing my best here, I like you can we just forget being mad at each other. (think about the underlying way to put this, rather then the verbal content, use how you feel, rather then the words, you want to hold that tone and change how she feels, rather then what she's saying)

Guys she was being erratic!

1- Multiple times dodging my invitations, not even giving me a straight answer (saying maybe, not sure)

2- She got jealousy for nothing watching a picture and going ham for no reason. Its the same i watch photo u in the beach and create a movie in my head. She wanted drama... my response might not been the best but she knew she was way out of line, saying fuck u and stuff.

3- Being cold on text, we would ussualy talk everday, to a point where i was the only one chasing her, and went no contact for 3 days and she didnt initate.

4- Going nuts on the phone when i went to talk to her and calm her down, and the next day she got upset with another shit just cause i said "no problem i was expecting u not coming"

5- I know she is talking to other guys cause i can see her adding guys on facebook.

6- Just coming to talk to me a day before of our date.Just to screw with my head.

7- She says she is really jeaulosy but she didnt show, one time.

8- She missed our date and not even attempted to reschedule.

9- having time for her friends and never to me!

10- Actually said we should talk face to face to clear things up makes no sense keep text( she gave me a O.o)

Is this a really behavior of someone who likes me ? or someone who is messing with my head

You need to think about the situation and how it happened. You said that she started acting like this after you fucked her and then questioned you about the women on Facebook. You really think she's never shown jealousy? That also matches her response on you saying that you're sure she's seeing other guys. She's remained pretty consistent. You made her feel like one of many when she wanted to matter to you. When she realized that she doesn't matter, she backed off. The single most telling thing that shows that you don't know what's going on is that you thought she was shit testing you. Open your eyes.

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She questioned me about facebook one day before our date 6 days had passed since the time i fucked her. on those 6 days ive tried to set up another dates which she dodged failed to response and went cold, never treat her like she was another girl. Her jealousy shit and the facebook photo in question was that day she went and fuck my head... Alot ahppened in those 6 days

Do you really think that changes things? She's asking you about other women. You fuck her and then told her that's all that you guys were doing after she's had concerns about other women. How can you not grasp what's going on?

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Are you dumb?

When a woman displays jealousy she's experiencing fear of losing her partner.

If you want her you allay her concern WITHOUT feeding her insecurities (e.g. turning your back and basically sub communicating that its her partner). Rather you talk about it like two adults. I'd take it as a form of flattery tbh.

OP, can you give the entire version of events? Such as "met this girl on tinder, we talked everyday before the date, went to movies 1st date, kissed, we continued talking everyday and went to a bar second date, banged. After banging I didnt contact her for a day blah blah blah."


Youre being erratic. Lol. One time you say she was never jealous...then you say she said she was jealous. What was the series of events and the nature of you 2 dating? When did you notice a change?

I wasn't trying to insinuate he should go crazy on her lol. However, before there can be resolution there has to be conflict. That's how life works. Read between the lines man. He needs to set boundaries through communicating his thoughts. It seems like both parties involved started off with different ideas of what was going on in the relationship.

As he has stated it's her fault that they haven't set up another get-together, and her peculiar behavior means this is probably over