[quote="R.C"]Look man, I'll be honest with you.

I've been that coworker a few times in the past year and a half. It doesn't matter to me if girls have boyfriends as long as I'm interested. And I'm not necessarily looking for relationships.

The thing is this, women are not stupid. They know what's up. If she accepts, at the very least she's curious and is keeping her options open.
And every single time I did have sex with a coworker that was otherwise in a relationship, it was always a less than ideal relationship. They were not particularly happy.[/quote

thank you for paraphrasing.

im used to not getting credit for my startling insight on here

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Galist at what point will you realize nobody really cares for your opinion/inputs?

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Funny I was just about to say this.

It's like an in vivo dialogue between the blind and clear sighted. Gailest serves a purpose in serving as the "blind' member of this conversation, to be corrected. It's likely quite helpful for a lot of the guys on here because in a sense he represents them with his voice. Better to be privy to it so it can then be corrected.

OK so now I'm just confused whether to say something or play it cool...I don't know what you guys are arguing about

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say direct to you gf,

-Let's make clear thing out, if i say to you that i ll meet a chick after my work, how would you react?

If she says nothing.

DO it with another chick. Playing it cool does not mean playin idiotic.

Like R.C. said, she know what would happen, but acts like that way. So it is her choice. Reflect in the same way the actions of your girlfriend.

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That seems passive aggressive she could resent me for that long run.

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Dont listen to anything Dicemaster says, he talks out of his ass. There's a reason he's single.

n2thevoid:

Anyways, so she ended up not even having dinner with the guy, cuz she texted me a few hours later saying she's not goign anymore....it may have been a mini test?

But reagrdless, yea the goal is security.

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A point I want to make here is its not always easy for a chick to turn down a solo invitation. I mean.. Most women don't want to be known as the bitch at work or uptight at the workplace. So they often have to be friendlier to men than they would be. Some guys are gonna say hey Jenny let's go to x place after work in a friendly way and when if she says no I have a bf then the guy plays it as this was just a coworker thing and you're looking too deeply into it. If she has to deny a coworker it gets awkward. So many women will just go and hope not to lead him on.

For eg I have an attractive married female coworker who gets invited to lunch all the time. It's like any guy she may have worked with.. Young or old will start a conversation with her in the hallway and say let's catch up over lunch tomorrow. Now she dodges and says she busy but sometimes she can't dodge. So she goes to lunch with guys solo. If she were to say well I'm married but cant... She'd look uptight or that she thinks she's all that or something. All of this is to say that if your gf or wife works... There are always going to be guys who use a coworker relationship to get alone time.

That being said I don't know how this guy asked your gf. Maybe this guy is playing it safe and made it sound innocent. Or maybe he's just some random guy. Maybe she's going out of social pressure or she's going with some guy she's been talking to and has some interest in. Do you think she may like this guy?

If you don't have security in your relationship right now I don't know what talking will do. Or playing games.

good points you make, she most likely mentioned this flame burger place to her coworkers, and one of em was prolyl like "oh hey we shoudl go after work!" so she agreed, she's like super friendly with everyone

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[/quote]Dont listen to anything Dicemaster says, he talks out of his ass. There's a reason he's single.[/quote]
The reason is your sister, she is always keep coming.

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i would leave her and being a.loner for the rest of my life.

she has one foot out the door, plusshe doesnt fear losing you

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It will come up again, trust me.

It's true, my way is perhaps passive aggressive, however voicing your concerns over this guy will come off as you thinking he's better than you, or that she'll fuck him. It's insecure on your part. And women will sometimes just do this to see how you react.


Sometimes women only "get it" when they feel emotion.

My gf went tubing with her best friend and two male co-workers yesterday (all three want to sleep with her). To her, it's nothing. I then related a true story at dinner about how a friend (who is a girl and who has tried to fuck me before) texted me to come smoke a joint with her yesterday. My gf got extremely jealous and told me it wasn't appropriate. I then told her I was cool with her tubing outing, and that she had an interesting double standard.

You could see the light bulb come on in her eyes.

If I had offered an Al Gore-like explanation rife with logic and common sense, and not triggered emotion, she still wouldn't get it. If I had tried to control her and tell her who she could and couldn't see, she would rebel or think I was bit weak/possessive. In the end, *she* tried to control me, and through emotion, ended up controlling herself. This is how women work. They must feel it.

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