No, it's not. Your analogy suffers from hyperbolism -- your situation is in no way so dire. Telling you to evaluate your actions with your intentions is not the same thing as telling a cancer patient to stop having cancer.
It's a process, bart. The more you immerse yourself around this ideology, the more your mindset will change. At first it is a conscious decision -- when you sit there wondering what to say, and you decide to say something because you think it'll impress her -- stop yourself. When you spot yourself doing something needy, stop. It's an action you can consciously make. Whereas you can't tell yourself to "stop having cancer" because that won't make it go away -- stop fucking exaggerating things, talking to women isn't that big of a deal.
As RC, n2, Jack, Mr. A, Heywood, neo and all the other guys on this forum mention all the time, you need to DO -- take action, bart. That's how you become. Kaizen.
You clearly aren't going to the gym for the right reasons based on the above quote. Everything you do, bart, is needy. You think going to the gym or reading a few posts on this forum will magically fix all of your problems? It won't. Going to the gym is how you show care for yourself and your health and your well-being.

If you're going there to impress girls, you're already being needy even with the fucking gym, bart.

dont speak Spanish around latin women.

why it turns them off. they might not be in their culture. or want to date out their culture

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^ These are just assumptions. It's not just what you say, but how and why you say it. Relevant quote from Models:

"There’s a popular study that says that only 13% of communication comes from the actual words we speak. The rest is body language and tonality. Think about that for a second. That’s almost 90% of all communication. I shouldn’t have to tell you how critical this is."

You can't get this right if you're giving off unconscious vibes of neediness because you are so worried about what she'll think.

I like RC's example:

if he's speaking it to no positive result, i say he should stop it.

if he's not sure when / how to use it, why not just not do it.

after he's better at caliberating, then he start back with it

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He's not getting positive results with women in general. Should he stop approaching too?

What is it with this guy?

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Not read the thread

But I am pretty certain it is mental masturbation

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It's actually galist making a tool of himself again.

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There's no such thing as shit-tests.
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Hmmm...Is there a woman who is EVER interested in you bart? I mean, i still think you're trolling, but its not like when you dont speak spanish the chicks cant help themselves and jump you. You turn off women CONSISTENTLY with everything you do. Why act like its when you speak spanish to latin women, THAT's the problem when even if you spoke english to them, you'd still be in the same place.

totally different, two totally different things.

if you're doing something thata ruining your result stop doing it.

i wont disrespect you nor call you stupid, but you gotta learn to think dynamically bruh

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Stop using a butter knife!

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Pay for sex or pay for training, Bart. One of the other

You obviously can't do this by yourself and you're not willing to meet other guys that do this.

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I AM willing to meet other guys that do this. I already said this in another post, if I had some kick-ass friends that are good at this and I could just observe them for one day, that would be enough. youtube doesn't work, I need to observe someone in real life. not to mention the fact that you're the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most, so if I hang out with some kick-ass people I would naturally become kick-ass myself.

He said it right. From my experience this is usually the issue for me. I would meet a latin girl all into me and then i talk spanish and interest slowly declines if i don't keep it up. I've learned that these girls are usually not into latin guys and are attracted to me because they think im black american

It's not the cause of his ruined result. Not every girl gets completely turned off just because you speak in her language, that's just silly.

Relevant quote from Models:

"You can say the lamest and grossest (or funniest, depending on your perspective) thing to women, and if the sub-communication is, “I really don’t care if you laugh or run away horrified, but here’s who I am, take it or leave it,” this sub-communicates a rock-bottom low level of neediness, and an incredibly high level of vulnerability."

How are you so sure that's why they aren't into you? Most women lose interest in you. You usually act awkward and weird.

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