She confused me and i want to know why i didnt get the clues.

She's very nice, answer all my textmessages, return my calls, etc. etc.

We dated once. No kiss, no sex. About 4 hours. We had a nice date. Funny, talking, we lunched, then went to a coffee shop, etc. A week later she said she can't date so i stopped chasing her.

Suddenly, 3 weeks later, she text me to my SPAM: "how are you i hope you are fine. Good luck with your project" -i told her i was doing a hard project and that day i need the oral presentation-. We messaged a few and a week later i asked her how was she, etc.

A weeks later i called her.

Me: "How are you! I wonder if you wanna date next week, have some drinks and talking"
She: "I could, this weekend i'm going to an apartment with my friends i need holidays"
Me: "Hahha. You could, thanks for giving me a second chance" -i was in ironic mode.
She: "Hahaha. I said i could cause this weekend i can't"
Me: "You know i was joking. So next week i'll cal you. Good weekend"
She: "OK, good bye!"

Yesterday, i called her, about 5 days later. We chatted a little about this & that. Suddenly, she told me:

She: "Well, im in a busy, i need to finish this work in a couple months, i dont' have time for anything".
Me (thinking: What?!): "Well, i was going to tell you to meet this friday, but..."
She: "Oops! I can't this friday. "
Me (thinking: why the fuck you told me to call you to date, are you a stupid woman?): "Ok, don't worry"
She: "Mmmm, but we'll date another day and talking"
Me: "Yes, we'll talk. Goodybe"
She: "Goodbye"

Man, that was really weird. She's polite, like she doesn't want to tell me "i'm not interested in you", but she's still polite, nice, etc. etc.

I'm upset cause i lost my time in a woman which wasn't clear at the beginning, she could said that last week. WTF.

Welcome to the world of women. There will always be time wasters. No big deal, so don't let it get to you.

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This happened to all guys, its just girls telling you in a friendly matter there not seeing you as a potential life partner, they like to keep you close as someone to give them attention/backup purposes.

What ive learned in the last few years of improving myself is to ignore them and not reach out. They will give you more attention until you fall into the trap again off giving them attention/validation.

Usually goes like this, you and her meet up, she runs her checklist and if you are not up to standards she will come up with excuses to not go for a second meet up. Busy is number 1 in their book of bullshit excuses, Bill Gates is busy..... people who live average lifes can MAKE time whenever they want, being busy 7 days is bullshit.

So what these guys do is text her another 5 times to meetup etc, she LOVES the attention/validation but will give you an excuse or ignore it until they bored again and then they respond.

Now if you dont text her to meet up again after being "rejected" by a bullshit excuse and actually MOVE ON / date other girls.... they will think why is this guy not chasing me....

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This may sound harsh but its just to snap you out of it:

Lets be real here...SHE didnt waste your time. YOU DID.

First a crap date...coffee and lunch? Not even a kiss. So you already wasted your time. Then you go back to chasing her when she contacts you to say good luck. Where did you think things would have changed after the lame date? I dont even think she used you for attention; you called her and put her on the spot.

Change the lame dates, and stop trying to squeeze your way back into the game with some chit chat. At least try to spark something when you fucked up the date.

Truth

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One of the issues here is you think her initiation has something to do with you, when in fact it has a lot less to do with you than you think. Her text to you is about her, what she wants, what she's looking for at the moment. Doesn't sound like you've established yourself yet as someone she would be texting would be texting because she was "thinking about him", "Misses him" or just "really enjoys talking to him". None of this is the case yet, so she's texting you for her own personal gain. What you do with that is on you.

Guys also have to keep in mind that just as we have game, women have game as well. Your game was to talk to her, chat her up, and get her out on a date so you could close. Her game was to get as much as your energy, attention and validation as possible without having give up much of anything. I write about this in an I wrote called " Men vs Women: What do we both want?"

It happens though man. Let this one go for now.

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Sounds like she's not interested or found another guy that excites her more.

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4 hours of no escalation and friendship. Bad date.


God damn that was awkward. You inferred the first date was bad. Why bring up "second chance" at all?

It's over.


Not a good attitude to have. Women are not stupid. They are far superior at multitasking and far more socially savvy than men. And your frustration IMHO came though in your interaction with her.

Someone once posted kick ass information on an internet blog: "when itneracting with women, say what you would say if you had three hot girls in your bed".

Your texts would become shorter. You would not chase. You would not be frustrated. You'd use words like "cool", "alright", "sweet", "right on". Indifference at the beginning stages hooks women.

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