I didn't even know it had a name until I was in my 40's.

I'm currently living with a girl much my junior. I struggle daily not to cheat.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I do agree with you on that Onoma. I don't really have sex to have a child or whatever. I don't plan on that for years. I like having sex because it's fun and it's pleasurable. I also agree that I only have that feeling of settling down when I don't want to exert the effort. Probably explains why I get bored after 6 months into a relationship and start missing the days I could just call someone else up without it being called cheating. I think you're right about not naturally monogamous. I agree it is a social construct, every time a girl hints at monogamy my insides just get a little ticked as if it's violating my natural right to be free.


Kinda curious to see how the older users back in the day are doing now in their marriages.

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Most older guys I've met that have been married have seemed nothing but envious towards the single lifestyle.

They key here is would you be monogamous for a lifetime to the same woman.

I think a big part has to do that sex has gone down the drain.

seems like you're asking answers

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If I was ya man, baby, you'd
Never worry bout what I do
I'd be coming home back to you
Every night, doin' you right

Your words are so confusing.

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Mr. Assertive, to answer your question, here is the female stats:

http://socialpathology.blogspot.ro/2012 ... -post.html

So yes, if a woman marries as a virgin, there is a much higher chance her marriage won't end in divorce as compared to non-virgins.

Perhaps you would like to date, Bartm? I am pretty sure he will pay for food and drinks and I think he even has a job

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Okay, so you actually turned out monogamous (struggling with it though). Do you know other guys in their 50s who used to do PU? How did they turn out?
Also, why not be in an open relationship?
And why did they get married in the first place?

See, that's what I mean: in the end most people will try to fit in the stereotypical monogamous marriage, regardless of if deep down it's what they're looking for or not. I'm not saying PU guys follow this pattern as well (I don't know about that), but I'm suggesting it.

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We do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do.

I was answering his question as opposed to going on randomly, like you say, but now you went off on a random side note.

.....What is your point with this question? Good for him then.

I wonder, Stoliar and HJ, if let's say you were in a relationship and decided to make it open. What if your girl was sleeping with 3 other guys and you were sleeping with 1 tops? Would that bode well for you?

Lol that's missing the point of an open relationship. For this kind of relationship to fare well the thing to look at is not how many people you and your partner are sleeping with, but how respectful, honest and mature a connection you have with each other.

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It doesn't work for everybody. Even if you're respectful, honest, and mature, blah blah. It's not for everybody.

Haha the way you say it shows how little care you have for respect, honesty and maturity. To me it's really the pillars of a healthy relationship, monogamous or not.

I never said it does work for everybody. But it's like PU, the possibility is there, and it can be learnt if you put in the effort.

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