Read the thread in my signature. You should not be TRYING to get an ex back. You should be trying to get over her. You broke up for a reason, and moving on is what gives you the most chance.

It's over. Accept it. "We suffer because we want reality to be other than it is"

You can't just suddenly do something to persuade a woman to come back.

_________________
I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Depends on the reason for the break up. If you hurt her, and she's still very much attracted to you, all you have to do is give some space, let the negative feelings evaporate a bit, and repair some of the hurtful behavior (if you really like her, that is) while keeping a fun, drama-free vibe.

However, if a girl is no longer attracted to you, it's over. No amount of convincing or behavior change will fix that.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

I went on tinder a while back, spoke to the occasional girl. But none of them really interested me, at all. And I had the exact same thought as you, I couldn't see a reason to not try again. Those girls bored me half to death, and my ex is the exact opposite of that.

How would I get started with getting dates? I mean, I don't really go about meeting new people all the time. All the people I've been out with are friends of friends. I have no idea what to say or do

Also, before everyone thinks I'm completely and utterly obsessed with being with her again. I can still function without her, and it's not like I'm not improving areas of my life. Me being here is evident of that, I'm not asking for a miracle. But I believe it'd be a complete waste if I just threw her away, and moved onto the next girl. And I feel like I have a chance, she admitted she had a huge crush on me for 12+ months before we were together, I just went through a rough patch and made some mistakes which led to her not being attracted to me anymore. I was self centred, resentful, angry, insecure all because I had a lower back injury and I couldn't find an outlet for my stress due to that. It was great before the arguments (which I caused my self, every single one of them).

In essence, I was a right prick. And I hate myself for being so childish in the way I behaved. She was virtually obsessed with me before my rough patch, she was always asking how I was and laughing at my jokes, even the stupid ones. And she'd always feel bad if she thinks she did something remotely wrong. She was incredible, but I just didn't realise what I had until I lost it. I know I have a chance, maybe even a slim chance. But that's all I want or need.

I just want to improve myself in some way, which explains why I'm here. To improve my chances with her, and I don't see why that would be impossible.

I just go up to girls I think might work and ask them out. Some say yes, and then I arrange a date via text.

I will "troll" bars looking for my type (hard to find) and then try and get things started there, too.

During the 14 day no contact, I did have a girl give me oral sex on the first date. She was better than my ex (at the time ) but I just liked my ex's personality/mannerisms better. I'll never tell her that.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

Sounds familiar! I was a prick and got dumped. My prickness really hurt her., making reconciliation close to the dump-point impossible. So I had to go no contact to wipe away negative feelings. During no contact I made her realize I had plenty of options (showed up at the bar with another hot girl), she contacted me, I met up with her, apologized, then fucked her. It was the fastest she ever came, haha.

From there I kept things fun, casual, and drama-free (no arguing AT ALL, do not bring up past relationship stuff unless she does, then make amends and never bring it up again). while making her orgasm a lot. A week after that she asked to be exclusive again. I'm glad she's still around.

sometimes, man, your ex is just better, and you were together for a reason. Only you can decide if that applies in your case. But I would advise to pull back a week and go on a few dates.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

I dont like this belief that she is better. She isn't lol. Some guy, somewhere, is sick of her bullshit. At some point in her life she's choked on a dick, had a stinky, runny shit and probably got so drunk that she pissed her pants. She isn't some angel. Just a normal girl.

Claiming that one girl is better than another is all about perspective and investment, to be honest.

_________________
I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Disagree.

Some girls are better than others: better in bed, better looking, better personality, wittier, etc.

I will agree with you, that there is a very, very large pool of replaceable/fill-in girls, totally interchangeable and you would never know (or really remember, lol).


But the Rockies are a superior mountain range to the Appalachians. This is reality.

And you bet your ass there are superior women.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

Superior to who? That again is all about perspective.

This "my ex is better than other women" mentality is so dangerous. She genuinely isn't in any situation - the guy is just viewing her as better. Sure, there might be certain women where the vast majority will prefer one over the other... but you can't factually claim that one woman is better than another. One might be insanely hot, smart, ambitious and loyal while another is fat, ugly, lazy and angry all the time... but maybe the hot one has a fetish for killing kids. You don't know. Absolutely any woman on the planet can be "the one" after enough exposure.

That's one of the first things you should have learned. Kinda pick up 101 lol.

Maybe you think some women are better than others, but that honestly is just your opinion. For example I think Beyonce is fucking ugly and Cheryl Cole is gorgeous... imagine how many guys disagree? I also can't name 10 black women that I find attractive, while some guys only like black women... perspective.

_________________
I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

Alright, I'm not ignorant enough to say she's perfect, and no girl ever will replace her. Because that's not true, if we broke up due to differences or lifestyle reasons, I wouldn't be attempting to get back with her. We broke up due to my own stupidity, that's it.

Same principles apply. The more you try, the further you push her.

"Look I know I fucked shit up. I think we're a great team and I feel like we can get past it. Give me a call if you change your mind because I'd love to see how far we can go with this thing" or something similar, then proceed with the advice in the thread.

_________________
I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.

That's a platitude. Everything in our lives, from birth to death is perspective.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.

Some things kind of go without saying, though. Like the fact that I'm writing this post right now, that's factual rather than opinion. We're human beings, also factual.

You could argue that the only actual fact is that there are no facts, but that's a whole new topic.

View all girls as equal or you'll put them on a pedestal, view them as better than yourself, chase after ex girlfriends and inevitably have worse luck with the ladies.

There are pros and cons to every girl, and what one man considers a pro might be a con to another man. I know a guy who would do anything for a relationship with a stripper for example.. But I wouldn't give one the time of day. Me disliking them doesn't make them worse than other girls, though.

_________________
I grew out of the dumb shit I used to say on here. Most of my posts don't represent who I am today at all.