I call bull shit

And why you call that way?

And why you call that way?

Because having real abundance will open your eye's that you're wasting your time flogging a dead horse.

Maybe you had the occasional Tinder date that didn't go anywhere beyond a make-out. Maybe you got a lucky lay...But if you had 5 fuck buddies on the rota, the girl would have been well and truly forgotten by now.

honestly...How many girls have you approached this week? How many dates this month? Because I am skeptical that such weak thinking and logic just wouldn't exist if you were actually living abundantly

I guess my point is that you would be meeting girls EQUALLY or MORE SO better than her, you make her sound like she a unicorn. She ain't. There are also girls out there that will give you the time of day, unlike her.

You have been messing around this for quite some time but yet you never listen. You just haven't accepted that she not interested in you anymore ,so why waste energy entertaining the fact? It's just a stupid crush because you got lucky with a girl once upon-time.

Yes, more women IS a solution. Especially better ones.

Dragula's right though OP.

If you would spend your time and energy opening up to the world you'd be meeting women just as if not better than her. Multiple women.
I get why he's calling bullshit and I'm doing the same.

You're virtually like a virgin taking about how sex feels like to a bunch of guys that have actually had it. To you it may not be as obvious but for us it's absolutely transparent that you're not actually doing the things you say you are doing.

It doesn't come down to fucking 10 other women, it comes down to having the option of being whatever you want to be with 10 other women that are at least just as good, regardless of whether it's just sex, relationship, friendship or whatever else.
It comes down to knowing that if your girl leaves you today, although it sucks, it's not the end of the world. Because the next amazing girl is just around the corner.
It comes down to knowing that whatever happens, it's gonna be alright.
That's abundance.

You don't have that. And that's alright. The point of this place is to help people get better, however that's not possible if you refuse the help that's being offered. When you come here, leave your ego along side your coat - at the door.

PS: Building up connections from ground zero is not a chore. It's an experience. A fun and exciting one.

Truth is also that I prefer monogamy. Being with one women exclusive, rather picking up multiple. I've had my time of the pick up/player guy. Now I want something different, something I never had before...

And btw if she is not interested any more why she just don't tell me straight forward - "I'm not interested, we better keep distance" or LJBF or any other shit that girls usually tell when they are not interested. She doesn't do that neither. Even if she said that I'd feel more clear and relaxed to move on.
But she is torturing me by keeping her mouth shut.
What if she thinks the same shit as me... perhaps she expects me to say all that to her...
This is jacked up to the max

I wrote her last week that I want to tell her something. One week she was offline, last night she got on (so probably she read it), however didn't replay to ask what I want to tell her...

I still want to tell her what I feel and still want to be assertive, but somehow I sense I can't push her any more.
It is her turn - she has to come to me. (which god knows when it will happen).

And staying in this middle space pains me really.

I still date other women, I still pursue my goals and still do sports etc but its just a distraction.
When I go back to bed at night I still think about it. I've written 5 pages regarding what I think and how I feel it. I don't plan to whine and moan about it, but just straight forward lay the cards down.

Best case would be she to contact me so we can talk and get clear with one another. I'd prefer she telling that nothing can happen between us, so I stop having some imaginary expectations, I'll accept that with respect, but she doesn't do that either. She remains silent and thus leaves me clue less, which makes me be even more hyped up.

What do you think is best now?
1. Be strong and wait, leaving it as it is (give her space),
or
2. Pursue her to talk and get ourselves clear once and for all.

All I need is clarity at the moment...

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Thank you for your time...

It's fine you prefer monogamy. Now you can try having monogamy with the first girl you cross paths with that also happens to be totally uninterested.
Or you can have monogamy with one of the 10 girls we've spoken about. You know, the one you chose because she's the best option for you.

Also women will rarely be as blunt and candid with you. She doesn't have to word it, she's communicating it to you plainly already.

Anyway if she doesn't replay with in a 10 days. I'll tell her that'm comming to her house. I have the address.