This year , I've been going out ... a lot . People who knew me before are calling me a party animal . I haven't missed a single chance to party . But really the more I party the more I hear how that guy pulled that girl or how the other guy did instead . I can't get close to pulling ...I really don't know why ... Maybe it's a lack of interest with the girls or my dancing is way out of synch with everyone , maybe I simply don't have the balls to take her by the arm and try my luck ...I was dancing with this girl and she was laughing while dancing with me , not happily laughing but jokingly laughing : do I lack sexual energy ? I reallly don't know how to think , where to think , or what to do to solve this . Every time I party I see a girl I have/ had a crush on smooching a guy . Help

Dress well, you don't need to dance well you just need to be in sync with the music. Sometimes when you are off beat, you will look hilarious. Just go along with the beat don't try so hard with the dance moves. Surround yourself with interesting people and that includes women as well. Also, you don't need to dance in order to pull out a woman at the party.

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-Richard
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Aside from dancing, what is your behaviour like at the party? Are you standing/sitting on your own or with only a couple of friends? Or are you being a clown and doing beer bongs and the like?

I'd be dancing with a group of girl / guys or just a guy or 2 . The guys in the group keep pulling but I don't .

When you dance with an hb, approach from the side, not the back. Now just enjoy the music and dont be lookin from left to right trying to check if your friends have pulled. It will reflect in your face if all you are thinking is pulling the hb. Get comfortable and don't be conscious. Treat the hb as if she was your bestfriend. Smile. Use kino escalation. Now when the timing is right ask her to go out and have a smoke or get some air. You go from there.

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-Richard
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let's say I grab her by the shoulder andance with her . We go up and down or maybe bop ... then what ? How do I escelate it from there ?

Lift her hands put them on your shoulder. Grab her waist closer. Make eye contact, if she's making eye contact as well go dor the kiss. If kiss is not achievable tell her you will get some air and if she wanna come. If she does take her somewhere quiet where you can talk and use your game there. If she wont come with you go to washroom and go back look for another target

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-Richard
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None of this will get you anywhere:

[*]I have no clue as to how you look like. This is number 1# factor.
[*]I don't know how you dress.
[*]I don't know how you act ( awkward weirdo or cool guy or whatever )

These factors determine everything. Everything.