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Ended up having a good time last weekend minus the fact she was on her period, fawwkk. Still managed to get it in once though we were both a little drunk.
Started to get a little more sexual with the texting and she seemed pretty receptive to it, telling me how wet it was making her, how bad she wanted it, blah blah
She came up last night and stayed over, the sexual tension was high, ended up f'in her 3 times last night and once again this morning
and only wore a condom two of the times.
We've had some pretty good conversations the last week, about our plans short term and long term and just life in general and where she wants to be, goals and such.
After sex I made the comment that another girl had asked me out on a date, I asked for her opinion on it and what I should do. I could tell she was hesitant at first, said idk a few times tried to ask what I thought first.
She eventually said she would be fine with it and couldn't really say no because we aren't officially dating.
That's a logic driven answer, and does not in any way reflect how she'd respond if you acted on it.
So the question is if its a relationship you want with this person, its something you cannot manipulate her into making a choice on. You have to do this for yourself.
That can look like sussing things out with other women, seeing as you two aren't exclusive to see what else is available. If you tell her that can either push her away, or influence her to want to become exclusive. It can go either way to be perfectly honest with you hence I say you do what's best for you.
If you continue to act exclusive with her, that can be damaging if after some time she decides to give somebody else a chance. That's a possible scenario, of course. Or this thing continue on indefinitely as is where the relationship has very ambiguous boundaries and you're constantly worrying if she sees you guys as exclusive or not, without the title.
So you've got to ask yourself is this worth putting your life on pause for. It may just be, but like anything there are risks involved.
You want some reassurance that you guys are working towards something, which is perfectly reasonable. She's not able to give that to you SPAM so you can either continue with things and let go of expectations, or get on with your life while also continuing with her to see where things can go. The situation is quite fluid and you can't force her to a decision as it will come out of the wrong energy even if she gives you the answer you want.
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