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Wassup man, how ya doin'? I appreciate you making this topic! =D I apologize if this sounds all AFC. =\
But my question is I opened this HB with her thoughts on one of my friend's decision to drop out of HS.
Is this a good opener and how would I jump to a completely different topic?
We messaged each other back and forth for the past couple of days. She's given her thoughts on it and all. I've worked with this HB in the past, and I think she had feelings for me but I didn't act on it. She opened me when she first started working with me (IOI?). I reduced the amount of talking to her before she quit. We just said "hey" to each other whenever we saw each other. We saw each other for the first time in like 7-8 months, gave her hug and caught up on things but she was in a hurry so didn't have much time to talk. So,
is there any way I can build up enough attraction and number close her?
I should've number closed her when I had the chance. =X Sorry if it's long and all. I appreciate it.
I think I DHV'ed myself by telling her I told my friend to talk to the guy that can let him stay in the school district without him having to pay tuition because another friend of mine did. o_O
I'm doing fantastic! You first asked if the topic of your friend dropping out of High School is a good opener. The truth is I can't answer that question. Results, are what matters in the field and not what I think. So, if you have used this several times, and women respond to it, continue to use it.
To jump to a completely different topic just find a transition phrase. The human mind naturally makes leaps that don't make sense. You can be driving down the road and you'll see a sign for a burger place and think "yumm." Then a second later you're reminded of that thing you have to do tomorrow. Weird right? It's typical for our minds to make jumps, so what we do in the field is just transition. I like saying, "Oh that reminds me of..." You could also say, "I just remembered..." These transitions will allow you to chance topic without appearing unusual.
So as I understand it, you worked with this girl and you think she had feelings for you. You kind of limited the relationship by not talking to her much when you worked together. However, you spoke online for some time. Then after about 7 to 8 months you physically saw each other, but she didn't have much time to talk. And you would like to know if you can get her phone #? My answer is without a doubt, YES!!!
Considering that you have worked with her previously, and talked online some I would think she has enough comfort with you already. Before you can get a phone number from a girl she has to have enough comfort with you built. Comfort in knowing that you aren't going to do something creepy with it, or call her 20 times a day, etc. I think she knows that already. My suggestion to you is in your next interaction whether that is online or in person ask her for her phone number.
If you are online I would message her through messenger preferably, and after some conversation say, "I'm tired of this typing, what's your phone number?" If you are using email, I would type my email out and say the same thing.
If she says, "No" or comes up with an excuse then don't worry about it. Continue to talk to her as if it's no big deal, when you've build more comfort then try to ask again.
The one thing I would caution you on is to make sure you go back, and build attraction when you finally get in front of each other again. I'd hate for you to end up in the "Friends Zone." If you have questions about this there are some great posts about how to do it. Basically, it involves not showing immediate interest in the girl, negging her a few time lightly. Of course using more DHV stories, which you can do over email or IM. Then playing on her comments when she DHV's or qualifies herself later.
CHAT
Okay so we got two choices here. If you respond "One Night Stands" you look like a player. If you say "Relationships" it looks better to most women. The key here is being honest. If you say relationships and two days later you say to her you don't want to get serious that's going to send up a red flag in her head. So whatever you respond with just be honest about it. 