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At the end of the day she is the one which is messaging me, I've asked her out and she didn't give me definite plans so I've left it at that. Not much else I can do.
I don't want any enemies on here.
Ya. Besides walking out the prison door of the prison you've created for yourself and move on with your life onto greener pastures.
Not much else you can do...
Sadly there are no greener pastures. It's either leave the option open for her to message him again or he has no other attractive options to chat with. Finding a better woman requires work. Would a guy who thought he could find better options really even leave the door open for this chick?
Knowing its a rhetorical question, I feel the need to answer "No" for some of the guys here.
All of this revolves around fear. If you let it rule you, you refuse to live courageously, and well you live your life like a dandelion spore in the wind.
THe vast majority of these threads can be dumbed-down to guys refusing to live courageously and instead letting fear rule them. If this wasn't the case their women would respect them more (and a lot of their issues in life would cease to exist) and once they'd have realized early on when a partner isn't a good fit and move on knowing there's someone else around the corner.
Why do you think motivational speakers such as Tony Robbins do so well. They tap into everyone's longing to live courageously. I'd say the vast majority of humans on this earth want such a thing, but maybe less than 5% are willing to do something about it. Out of that 5% maybe 1-2% willing to persevere and succeed. Problem is people want instant results and after a few failed attempts of trying to push through fear they give up.
And to all the members here, don't kid yourselves into thinking just because you're part of something such as a PUA forum, or gathering that somehow you're doing something. Most of your successes in life will have far more to do with IMPLIMENTATION, less so 'book' smarts and theory. You implement, you fall on your face, and make the necessary tweaks along the way. That's why I give props to guys like Bartm who are actually DOING something rather than sitting in theory and imparting advice like many of the arm chair theorists on this forum and many others cut from the same clothe.
Honestly most of the guys here if they just interacted a lot more, pushed beyond their comfort zone, they'd be much further along in their journey than the guy who comes here and tries to master all these little techniques and frames.
The guy who implements whilst taking the occasional learning experience from others who are successful (e.g. tips on communicating, frames, etc) will be on fire soon enough and well ahead of the curve compared to the guy sitting here for a year trying to soak up all the information he can without ever really implementing, or doing so here and there.
Living within the confines of Fear is the impediment to abundance. Living and making choices often in spite of Fear ('living courageously') is the hero's journey.