So met this girl online and we hit it off well texting. Lots of good banter. She initially wanted to meet that night with her friends, or before a show the next day. I told her generally I prefer to meet without friends and not to be the appetizer before she goes off and does something fun. She replied later that I was saying all the right things and that she was in to meet wed ( which is the day I had suggested). She would text me a lot and saying things like thats why she is up so late to talk to me blah blah. Of course this is all before meeting.

We decided to go to a free concert in the park, I brought some wine, she was sweet and brought some snacks. Concert was 2 and a half hours but we spent the whole time talking, and laughing. She's 27 btw. She was smiling and laughing, and asking me questions, feeling good and relaxed. Ended with a hug. I didnt kiss because I was still kind of sick ( which she knew I had been really sick over the weekend) She said I looked like my pictures which she liked so i wasn't a surprise.

Of course I realize its always key to physically escalate and and there was a little, and touch me a couple times but not a lot. I didn't get the impression that it would be a complete dealbreaker if we didn't makeout, she just seemed very interested to get to know me. I came out of it feeling good. I texted her that night I had a great time, and would like to see her again. She replied that she had a great time and that she got to meet me. For clarity I said are you up for meeting again? She wrote back sure!!!! I really liked our conversations.

So the next day I texted her something in the middle of the day with an inside joke in regards to all the food and snacks she nicely brought. She responded some funny emoji. So being that we met already I figured would be best to schedule something soon being that im sure other guys talk to her. So I said when are you free to meet up again? No response. Then today no response.

I know this girl was very responsive before but now its like she saw that messaged went to bed ignored it, woke up ignored it, got busy probably forgot about it. I'm not just talking to one girl but I liked this one and wanted to see her again. I hate this limbo where you don't exactly know what is up. Do I text again today or does that sound needy? It's no big deal would just like to know if this girl wants to go on another date or not.

Thanks for any advice

Find something to do. Get in touch with one of the other girls that you're already talking to and go out with them. In a few days contact this girl again and try to get her to go out spontaneously.

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Thanks for the reply. I realized I had concert tickets for the following tuesday so I reached out after another day and asked her if she wanted to go. She replied asap Hi! who is it ( though I'm sure any girl is still a little curious either way). She said we should let me know, check her scheduleand said that she LOVES the artists,etc,etc.

Before she would get back right away, was able to to schedule our first date in advance. I realize people are busy, I myself work crazy hours and have obligations, but its two days away, and i really doesn't take 3 days to check your schedule. Any clue what to do? Should I reach out again, or wait for her?

This girl is not showing interest. She loves the artist but has to check her schedule? When people say that they have to check their schedule, it's usually bullshit. If she loved the artist and liked you, she would likely have gotten out of whatever she was supposed to do in order to be with you at the concert. I wouldn't even contact her at a later date.

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Thats what I thought. It still would be nice to know

You know what...I have given up on wanting to know anything when disinterest has been given to me. It makes life and women so much easier.

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I get that if one person is interested and the other isn't that its hard to say. It's just weird rather than say hey I'm busy next week or I have work or I have this or that, she left it open ended. Then proceeded to tell me how she like the artist blah blah. She also told me she wanted to meet again since she our conversations etc,etc. It's mixed signals.

Man I love this. We're gonna meet one day buddy

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This is where I found what kind of guy you are. This is where Jack's advice of once the girl starts getting iffy, it's time to drop her ALLLL the way to the back of the line. Of course other guys talk to her. Guys will talk to her even if you manage to make them your girlfriend, get use to it.


The fact that you said that and that is the reason you wanted to meet up with her because other dudes were talking to her is your downfall. Take it easy man. Let the pot reach a boiling point.

This is why I wrote this post


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And just last night, I was chatting up a cutie through messenger. I asked her to come out and enjoy a night people watching while sippin some wine. If she wanted to of course. You know what she said "I will let you know" This was in the afternoon.


Now, you know what I did ? Did I text her back that night ? No. I knew she wasn't going to text me back, did I care? Nah, I embraced it. I played some Xbox one and laid down for the peace and quiet. This was after work too, so I treated it in a positive way. Life is definitely easier that way.

Do you think I will text her back any time soon ? Nah, I won't text her back for a week or at least until I feel like it. She probably talking to like 3 other dudes. More of where she came from. It's cool. I made my move.

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Yeah Im not seeing interest. You took her on a lame date, where you talked. She was on the fence about you before, then you took her to a lame date. She's not rushing to go to another show and talk. Next time bounce to a few places, take back to yours if you want. Kiss at least. I dont know what kinda sickness you have where you can talk for 2 hours and kissing is a problem. This is the kinda date where you dont give her anything to FEEL but good conversation = lame. If she loves the artist and is dodging going with you, that says ALOT about how not interesting your date was. Next time screw the whole concert/talking thing. And dont suggest the same exact thing for part 2.

I agree with you about not seeing interest. There was absolutely no indication she was on the fence before, actually was taking the initiative to chat me up a lot before. Also you are assuming that this is a lame date because for you or maybe the girls you meet its lame. This girl isn't a really a bar, or club type of girl and she was really excited about it. Also as far as part 2 being the its completely different. One was outside in a park with thousands of people another is a intimate club where they are putting on a small performance . I should have kissed yes, but I didn't read her as the type who would disappear for that.

A problem that holds back many guys is they make mistakes, when told its a mistake, they dont correct it in the future but excuse it and continue.

Your date was lame because it was ONE activity. Simply, it was you sat and talked. "We spent the whole time talking and laughing." Now, chick from online, and if you want consistently GOOD dates, you do more than 1 thing. You dont sit and talk the entire time.

Also, it was lame judging by AFTER she's not interested in meeting up again. Obviously SHE thought it was lame.

So, it WAS lame.

As to the second date being the same thing, it is. You'll sit and talk. Or you'll just listen to the band. But whether there are 10 people around you or 10,000, its still you and her sitting and talking.

What Jack said was a pure jewel, which alot of guys will take for granted. Keep the shit simple. She isnt replying when you ask her out = she's not interested. She's not interested after meeting = the date was lame. Whatever she said, was irrelvant. Few girls will tell you they're not going to see you again. Few girls will tell you that your date didnt spark anything. What matters is her response AFTER the date, not what she said in the moment. Im telling you you should have at least kissed her, done more than sit and talk. Your concert/date is exactly why girls will leave a date and say "he's a nice guy....but there was no chemistry."