Maybe you two are actually just good friends but when you are with other people you can play the part of the couple?

Well... maybe

It's your connection. Try to change it. It's not easy, especially when it has been ingrained. That's what I was getting at earlier. Sometimes you two just become so familiar and comfortable that it becomes a really good friendship where you two can laugh or enjoy each other's companies and lives but there isn't the sexual/romantic aspect that comes with the honeymoon stage. Change her belief systems about you and yours about her a bit by reinventing yourselves to be more compatible sexually/romantically.

That is problem well identified with an explanation of what do i need to change. I am afraid that I am aware of that.

What about some actual advice of specific actions you would perform? I know this forum is better than this. Somebody must know. Ie the wuestion of HOW remains.

Seriously? Just seduce her. Like a fucking PUA.

Elaborate

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So it would seem. Shoulda just kept my mouth shut.

I haven't gotten to the situation when I had no intimacy before, because I like intimacy and thrive on it. I act and rekindle it before it dies out if we've been busy or something. Invite her over, buy or make dinner together, share a weird story, something to hint I'm putting the moves on. Then escalate kino like there's no tomorrow. When I did this with my girlfriend (I'm single now) I would get the fuck. And during the fuck everything would get better. Because all the love and passion I had for her would show in spades.

It's not hard if you both really, genuinely want it. And of she doesn't want it you should stop framing the problem in terms of "we" and in terms of "I" instead.

We was men, are hard wired to try and 'fix' things. I get it. I see the effort.

What I don't see is hers. She's not on a forum trying to 'fix' it. Women don't work that way. Their batteries are charged by emotion.

She's not feeling it. = Batteries low.

There is no risk, risk is exciting, risk is emotion. So is fear. But she doesn't have either of these emotions, because there is no FEAR of losing you, because you are afraid to RISK it.

You've made it so convenient she's just coasting. She's not trying, because she has no reason to.

Maybe it's just dying a natural death. And you two are BOTH just coasting. But it's easier than the alternative.

Easier than the risk.

I've see relationships coast like this for YEARS! When people stay in a horrific relationship instead of breaking up, I assume they killed someone together.

I'm not saying you need to break up, I'm saying that must be the RISK so she can feel that FEAR!

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Text this right in the middle of the afternoon:

"I'm going to grab you by the hair and come on your face when I get home."

Mix shit up. Shock her a bit. Surprise her. Take her to the "usual place", then when you get there, after one drink, whisk her away to a strip club and get her a lap dance.

Take adderal and fuck like crazy. Get really high on THC and listen to music. Go fuck in a park with the risk of getting caught.

Get the fuck away from the couch, snacking and TV. Absolute relationship killers.

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Whenever I read stuff like I die a bit on the inside.

Is this really what manhood has become? Sex is a prize you must work for in order to "get"? To be "given"? From your girlfriend no less?

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Story?

I will definately post it. Just not today. Too many things on my mind and i hate being in this now semi empty SPAM. Id rather see my friends now. But you have my promise.

Yep. They see sex as a scooby snack for their efforts. Sad really. Pathetic, absolutely.