This is all about displaced narcissism, she feels unattractive so by fucking a 'hot' guy she can feel validated about her own level of attractiveness.

We don't talk anymore. He removed me today from instagram too.
I can't do that. Now it's only either based on looks or I have to risk rejection and humiliation and nod hello.
And what would it lead to? Not much I guess.

I don't know him that well to say that I like more things about him. He has an ok banter, nothing as good though like the guys at work. So I am not impressed by that. He also likes that I went to uni and have a good degree and I work in a good and important project for my city. I always made him laugh with my jokes.
I might not be as hot as you say. There is nothing I can do about it I am who I am. I can only get the best version of myself.
Don't worry about my time being wasted. If there was someone who would have been even ok to date and was interested, I would date him.

Pursuing (and placing higher value) on someone else is a sure-fire way of lowering your sense of self-worth.

Little do you realize, in your blind pursuit you're causing more harm to yourself than anything.

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Exactly. That's why I just give up.

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Not "giving up", but "giving" back to yourself with self-respect to know when something's not worth the chase.

Yes it's true. I am really disappointed now tbh.

In yourself which is normal. Take a 'snapshot' of that feeling...that's your cue that you haven't fully honoured yourself. There won't be a next time because now you know.

Value is really quite subjective, and a lot of times the value we place on things is quite arbitrary too.

Nobody deserves to be valued simply based on their looks, or any other thing unless really they've earned it (from you). Hold yourself to a higher standard and u'll only attract people of higher caliber.

Yes. I am too nice.

Translated into a need's based language = "I put others before myself"

You have needs, like anyone else, if you behave in a manner in which your needs are subservient to those around you you might as well be a 'nice dead person' (aka a person who acts like a dead one, as dead people have no needs).

HAHHA
I'm sorry but the "I'm too nice" was funny. No, nice is not chasing someone and being accommodating because youre that thirsty. You wanted something and you tried to get it. Thats like guys here saying a girl they were trying to fuck flaked on them for a year, and then they say they were too nice. No, you were too thirsty. Maybe if you realize your issues, youd actually not keep repeating history.

this is interesting to me, usually all a woman has to do is just being around a guy n if he's interested he'll bite. there's no extra step.

this reminds me of a cosmo article, tht was giving women advice on how to make a man cum

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If I was ya man, baby, you'd
Never worry bout what I do
I'd be coming home back to you
Every night, doin' you right

Then why did you join the forum if dating is so easy? Go, be around the women you like and ask them all out. No extra step.

Absolutely. You see next time someone i know someone and we bump into each other i won't say hello. I mean that's my issues making me chase right?
Also if i fancy someone i ll stay an ice queen and show no interest back! Because that's how a woman should behave if she wants a guy. Obviously. This will encourage him to take the next step! I didn't know men like to keepon hitting on a girl who shows no interest at all. I thought that this was considered creepy. But whatdo i know right?
I better go put on some more lipstick and stand close to a bunch of guys.
You know what? I must be exactly like those mates you have that the girls flaked on them. How do i know if a man fancies me? No way i dknow someone's body language when they are flirting.
Like when his chest was almost touching my breasts and he was holding one hand and the other was rubbing the other... how stupid was i not to think that he was just a pt making me feel better about myself! Maybe if he fucked me would have been just him encouraging me with going to the gym more often!
Also forget that i live in England where people don't really touch each other.
Right. Let me go process now my issues. I need to learn by my crazy mistake.
I promise i won't bump on that pt today as it happened yesterday. Ok?
I need to stop my issues making this happen
Oh and my new pt? I will book my sessions telepathically. I only need my intuition to book a time.