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First, be a more interesting person.
Second, realize that even the best of friends are going to have moments of silence during conversation. I usually just look at the girl and smile in adoration. I'll wait for her to say something to try and impress me.
You're coming at women with the wrong attitude. Stop trying to impress people. Be a bad ass and make people want to impress you.
You're telling him to just "be" a specific way which gives an end point but nothing tangible to work on.
That's like telling someone "be happy" "just be confident" - without any specific actionable behavior(s) they're just empty phrases.
Being an "interesting person" involves experiencing life. But really, Op, by building yourself u'll feel far less outcome focused, more present in yourself and as a byproduct your interaction with people will become much smoother - and yes, u'll be comfortable with 'awkward silences' rather than trying to diffuse the tension you're feeling with idle banter/filler.
Simply put.... He needs to get some hobbies. That will make anyone a more interesting, bad ass person.
Learn to play an instrument. Take a boxing class. Travel somewhere. Try something new and you'll have something new to talk about. Not a very difficult concept.
I am a amatuer muay fight(6 years practicing, and some fights. also boxing and BJJ), I also travelled half of my continent, dancing classes(5 styles),ok, I have a lot of hobbies. I still have problems with 'awkward silences', if it is a active date I just say nothing, and most of the time works.
But sometimes you have to say something, like after cum(in the break). I dont know how to start talk about my hobbies, should be like "do you know I can crack a dude ribs with my knee...blablabla"?hahahahaha. I always do in a chaotic way, and some times I just fail, and increase the awkwardness.