Hi, so if you saw my previous posts, you will see i was dumped by my ex, she didnt love me etc. I know the whole philosophy on here is not to go back, and lots of fish in the sea etc. But i do love this girl and to be honest i dont blame her for dumping me.

I have never really cared for a girl before, and always attracted girls and was the one ending relationships. So when i met this one, i instantly was hooked and she was the first girl i had feelings for and loved. As a result, i did everything to please her, never took charge always just wanted to make her happy and basically became a bitch, and was the sensitive one, who got attached. I am pretty sure she still cares about me and misses me and likes how well i treated her, but because i became so beta, she wasnt attracted to me anymore.

When we broke up i tried to get her back and she basically told me to stop chatting to her, move on, and forget her, again, i was the bitch, she was almost pitying me. We got back to chatting last night and because i was just having fun, not asking her if she misses me, not trying to get back with her, she seemed to be responding really well.

We talked for a long time and there was lots of joking and playful teasing. I think she could sense i wasnt so needy or beta now and she is beginning to become attracted to me again. The thing is, she is very stubborn and if she ends something she always said she wouldnt go back. So i know if i bring up too soon about getting back or anytrhing like that she will immediately pull away.

But im pretty sure in her head she is interested although she would never admit it, she was asking me, how my family feels about her now we broke up, if im dating anyone etc

Ive been doing small things to make her remember things about me in a friendly way, this morning i text her. Saying i know she likes waking up to a nice message and since were not together she probably hasnt had a nice message to wake up too, so ill be a good friend and send you something to wake up too, have a great day, im busy all day so cant chat, but we will speak soon.

What im thinking is i need to not txt everyday, just every so often and have a fun playful chat, then in the future suggest meeting as friends for a coffee and show up confident and take charge, but under no circumstances get soppy and tell her i still care for her and miss her etc.

What are your opinions, how do i play this out?

you will just fuck it up further

This the chick who told you she never loved you and she loved her ex? Move the fuck on. You're desperate because of your appearance. Put in the work.

What you are basically asking is you want a red pill to get your ex who dumped you back? Knock it off OP!

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Your whole plan is a failure in the making when you choose to actively go after her. If you want her back she has to see that you are valuable. Dropping reminders isn't going to do it. Acting like an orbiter with cute little messages isn't going to do it. You do it by demonstrating your value and making yourself unobtainable. The best way of showing your value is by showing that you are in demand and not get caught up in proving that you are the one for her. Attempting to prove that you are the one for her will put you on the back of her waiting list.

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You're still the very same needy person you were while with her.

Scarcity mindset. Otherwise you'd have moved on by not giving her the time of day, especially after the way you allowed her to read you - #doormattsrus


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